Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
Fear is one of the most destructive forces in relationships. It never motivates us to do the right thing. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
Men typically mask their fear by trying to be macho. Women typically don't hide it but it will cause destruction in your relationship. Fear will be at the core of your worst disagreements. To get rid of it, you have to learn to understand it—and then disarm it.
Much of our fear has to do with basic needs. Every person’s deepest need is the need for love, which is why almost everyone fears rejection. When you fear being rejected, you close your heart in order to protect yourself. That way, if you do get rejected, it won’t hurt so much. That’s why fear of rejection damages intimacy.
Many times we ask God to change our boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse, but in many cases, you need change as well. Ask God to take your fears and fill you with love, power, and a sound mind. Ask your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend to do the same. Don't hide your fears, let them know and let God work in your lives!