There are only two ways to manipulate people. One is you terrify them. You make them afraid of you so they will follow your fear. The other is an excessive amount of never-ending empathy. So, they will follow their own fear.
What they are trying to do is keep on taking you back to your hurt so you stay offended and afraid.
All this because fear-led people are easily manipulated. When we are afraid and we are led by fear, we just want to get out of our fear. We will do almost anything.
Love cares what you went through. Love will empathize with you. But not repeatedly because it doesn’t want you to stay stuck in your hurt. Love doesn’t keep taking you back to your hurt.
Love wants you to move on from your hurt. Love wants you to forgive and repent and to fight to live a loving life so you can grow from that.
So, everyone everywhere—our world is filled with it right now; it’s all-over social media--all this abundance of empathy stuff. I am sorry. It’s not for you, it’s for them.
It’s manipulation. The goal is to destroy you.
So, it’s ok to empathize. It’s not ok to continually forever empathize.
We need to love people.
Love will do whatever it can to drag you out of your hurt. Even if it’s tough.
Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
Think about it.
Trust God’s Word no matter what.
Keep your eyes on the horizon.
If this doesn’t make sense, read my book, “The Right Fight: How To Live a Loving Life.” It’s all in there. I spent seven years writing it. It will help you set your life on a path of fruitfulness and show you how to live a loving and courageous life instead of a life driven by fear. Order the book on Amazon and at shieldsofstrength.com.