Our thinking determines how we relate to everyone in our lives. It impacts how we view others. It impacts how we view ourselves. It even impacts our relationship with God. Unfortunately we have fallen thinking. We have to take our fallen thinking and conform it to biblical thinking.
Changing our thinking can be hard because the Word of God seems foolish to us. 1 Cor. 2:14 says - "The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned. It’s hard to accept the bibles ideas of hope, sacrifice, submission, or forgiveness. Those things do not come easy to us because it‘s not the ways of the world.
The Bible tells us to love our enemies. It tells husbands to sacrifice for their wives and wives to honor their husbands. Sometimes these commands offend us, but they come from a loving God. We can be immature children living according to our limited understanding, or we can trust our Father who knows better.
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The Word of God requires us to act against our feelings. Many times because we are living in fear. If I do what the Bible says people will walk all over me. It has been hard but I had to learn to trust God's plan. With faith and prayer, I began to believe what God said. I do my very best to treat others the way God said. It ended up bringing me great peace, but only after I acted contradictory to my feelings. God’s word doesn't cater to our feelings. It challenges us, but when we honor it, God's Word also heals us. Our fear becomes faith.