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If someone tells you they can heal your wounds, they are manipulating you. People can stop hurting us but they can’t fix the hurt they caused.Them loving you makes it easier for you to love -- but whether they love you or not -- if you love, you find healing.Being loved doesn’t heal anyone! Only loving does that and if anyone tells you loving yourself will heal you, please run for your life. It’s a trap!No Jesus no love. Know Jesus, know love!I remembered when I first started teaching on the “Th …

In these chaotic times, it is critical to remember that love is not rude or angry, but fear is; and seeking truth must always supersede our actions.“Anger is something we all feel, and those angry feelings are often beyond our control. I have never figured out how to stop feeling anger. Acting on our angry feelings, though, is something we often can control.“We can feel anger but still choose to be kind. Fear acts on the anger that it feels. Anger does not rule our lives when we feel it. Anger o …

Loving to be loved it not love at all...it’s manipulation. Love requires sacrifice and a willingness to do what you believe is “truly” best for the other person. When we really love then the fruit of love (the feeling of love) will take care of itself. Wrote about this extensively in “The Right Fight” how to live a loving life. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not e …

We should not go around making mountains out of mole hills, but when real trouble comes love runs towards it, not away from it. Run to trouble and ask the most important question....Why? Somewhere in the answer to “Why” is the answer to the trouble. We should be willing to repent if we are the problem. If we are not the problem, don’t respond in anger. Respond with the truth as kindly as you can deliver it. The truth doesn’t need our help or our anger to pack a punch. Then follow the truth where …

If we could only define one word it should be love, but sadly, it’s the one word few can define. “The Right Fight” was written to define love for my children and help them understand how to live it. Every video I ever create is rooted in what I share in that book. Next to God’s Word, it’s the most valuable thing I have to offer them or anyone else. The fruit of love is the feeling of love. Love is doing what is “truly” best for others without regard for ourself. John 15:13, “Greater love has no …

We shouldn’t be in the business of policing everyone else’s decisions. The Bible tells us to get the log out of our own eye before we try to help someone remove the splinter from their eye. That said, loving someone who makes a habit of being selfish or is extremely selfish does mean challenging them to change for their own sake. Pretending it’s ok for someone to continue to abuse you or take advantage of you is not loving them. Love speaks truth. Not every truth is worth defending, but when one …

When we really understand how Jesus loves us we are left with a burning desire to love as we are loved. We no longer love to be loved we love because we are loved. Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. 2 Corinthians 5:21 For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. …

Some say some wounds never heal. I think the only wounds that never heal are the ones we refuse to stop nursing. All wounds need nursing at first, but at some point we must let them heal. We don’t heal wounds...Jesus does if we let Him. Every wound leaves a scar, but the scars purpose is to make that place stronger. Stronger, so we can help others through the same hurt because we have been there and found our way out. Love leads us out, heals the wounds, and makes us stronger. Jesus is love, and …

The world tells us to love ourself or hate ourself. Both are equally selfish. Both require a self focus. Love requires we die to ourself. Living a loving life is the best possible thing we can do for ourself, but we can’t do it for ourself or it’s no longer love. If this sounds crazy please read,”The Right Fight” How to Live a Loving Life. There was a time I would have thought I was crazy too. All I can say is please, please, please, keep digging for more truth. Nothing will set you free like th …

It is the greatest feeling ever to be loved, and the worst ever to not be loved. But loved or not loved, we still have a responsibility to love. Being loved is great, but it says nothing about us. Whether or not we love says much about us. It’s hard to keep living a loving life when we get hurt, but we must. The whole word can love us, but if we don’t love, it’s all for nothing. Or if no one loves us and we still love, then love rules our life and fruitfulness is our destiny. No one ever said lo …