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Wives should not depend on their husbands for their peace and joy. Only Jesus can provide that, but a loving husband can sure make it a heck of a lot easier for a wife to live in joy and peace. Loving our wives is a daily decision to do what is truly best for them without regard for ourself. It doesn’t mean ignoring truth, but it does mean putting them before ourself. Fear always looks out for itself....love always looks out for her. Ephesians 5:25,”Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also …

We must first understand our children are new to this life. They really don’t know how to sort out their feelings with what is right. We shouldn’t tolerate their selfishness but we also need to understand they really don’t know the truth yet. We need to take the time to explain to them how to put themselves in the other persons shoes. We must teach them how to love others as if they were them. If we take the time to help them understand that we want them to live a selfless life for their own sak …

I have and so often see people saying they are doing things in the name of God when in reality, it’s the opposite of what God would have me or them do. It’s also far too common to give Satan credit for what the law of God is enforcing. When we pay a price for sin, it’s a blessing not a curse. When we get what we want for selfishness, it’s a curse not a blessing. God won’t bless selfishness because He loves us. If we are unsure if we are following the Holy Spirit or our own feelings, we should …

Gratefulness is a choice. If we are not grateful for little, we won’t be grateful for much either. My wife @tammieavaughan is one of the most grateful people I have ever met. When we were dating, nothing got her more excited then going to Circle K (she called it K’s) for a pack of Little Debbie blueberry muffins and a cherry Slurpee! To this day she gets soooo excited over school supplies like pens and paper for home school, and sometimes I drive 50 miles one way to get her a Big Red Icee at …

Grieving is important. Moving on too fast can be just as damaging as not moving on at all. There is a grieving process, and the time it takes to move on will depend on how much we lost. Moving on doesn’t mean what we lost has no value. It means giving value to what we lost by how we live moving forward, and allow love to continually rule our lives. Whether we are moving on from selfishness or love, God wants to use it all for our good and the good of those we love. He can if we let Him. Don’t …

Be patient! Slowing down a loving relationship only helps it. Rushing a loving relationship can ruin it. If we rush a broken relationship, all we get is hurt and regret. Fear is always anxious and in a hurry to move a relationship along, because it’s afraid it will lose what it wants. Love is patient because it’s more concerned with you being sure you want to stay then it is with losing what it has. Love takes courage! If it’s not good for both people in a relationship, it’s not good for eith …

First you should know the truth, and you must believe the truth no matter how you feel. The truth is, if someone doesn’t love you, it says nothing about you. Whether or not you love does say something about you. The whole world can love us, but if we refuse to love, fruitlessness is our destiny. Or- no one can love us, but if we love, then love rules our life and fruitfulness is our destiny. It’s so critically important we believe the truth, because what we believe is the foundation of who we …

If we hate people, we are allowing fear to rule our lives. The only thing we should hate is sin because sin and selfishness destroys lives. Love and selflessness saves lives and builds them. Jesus is love! Loving selfish people may mean loving them from a distance. We don’t have to like people to love them. Loving them is doing what is best for them without regard for ourselves, and praying they surrender to love so love will also rule their lives. In “The Right Fight” I discuss this at length. …

Tammie Vaughan shares her personal miscarriage experienceand God's promise when He says, "Even to your old age and gray hairsI am he, I am he who will sustain you.I have made you and I will carry you;I will sustain you and I will rescue you."Isaiah 46:4 …

PatienceI must say patience is something I struggle with. The true test of patience comes when we feel violated, When a car cuts us off in traffic, when we are treated unfairly. We feel like we have a right to get upset in the face of irritations and trials. Impatience seems like a justifiable anger. The Bible praises patience as a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) which should be produced for all followers of Christ (1 Thessalonians 5:14). Patience reveals our faith in God’s timing …