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Have you read it?
If you have read “The Right Fight” and are willing to share a few sentences that may encourage someone else to read it please share them. We will pick a couple to put on the back cover of the book for the next printing. Whether you share anything or not I am forever grateful to you all!!! Your encouragement and conviction has helped me become a better father, husband, friend and man. I don’t think you could ever understand how much your comments mean to
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4th Nov 2019
Should we trust our feelings?
I have learned never to just follow my feelings. If I wanted to wreck someone’s life, I would advise them to just do what they feel is right. That said, I never ignore my feelings either. I check them with the truth. First I go to God’s Word, and if my feelings don’t align with God’s Word, I trust God’s Word, not my feelings. Then I ask the people I trust for their insight. I dig for the truth until I believe I have it, and let the feelings follow me. This is not easy but it’s essential! Don’t f
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4th Nov 2019
How to become a slave unto yourself
When we are slaves unto ourself, we are the only one who can make the decision to set ourself free. That decision is to love Jesus...who is love. To love the God who loves you whether you loved Him or not. I write about this extensively in “The Right Fight” -How To Live A Loving Life. Available on Amazon and at shieldsofstrength.com.
Every time I hear someone say respect me and I will respect you, I ask them if they realize they are giving the wheel of their lives to others. Fear loves others w
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4th Nov 2019
How do I get closer to God?
God is love. If we know love, we know God. Love was not what I thought it was most of my own life. Learning what love really was drew me closer to God than I have ever been. This is why I wrote “The Right Fight -How To Live A Loving Life.” I’m telling you the truths in that book radically changed my life forever. It took me off the path of self-destruction and put me on the path that leads to Jesus and fruitfulness. Please read it if you have not already, but first read God’s Word. Even if it’s
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31st Oct 2019
How to know an expert when you see one
It’s incredibly important that we depend on dependable people when we need help-and we all need help. When I’m looking for a true expert, I’m looking for someone who will ask me lots of questions and not assume anything is true....even if they are sure they already know the answer. I’m looking for someone who is less worried about how smart they appear, and more worried about helping make sure I understand the simplicity of their expertise. I’m looking for someone who is more worried about findi
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30th Oct 2019
What does a healthy marriage look like?
Someone loving us is not permission to hurt them just because they will forgive us. It’s a responsibility to love them. If we love someone....the last thing we ever want to do is hurt them. That said, as much love as I feel for Tammie, and as hard as I fight to love her, I still manage to hurt her far too often. Healthy relationships and marriages are rarely without hurt. It’s the willingness to truly repent and truly forgive that keeps love growing stronger. If someone continues to hurt us with
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30th Oct 2019
What is the Difference Between Loving Someone and the Fear of Hurting Someone?
Love never ever wants to hurt anyone! It’s extremely painful for love to be forced to deliver the news that the person it loves needs to change. That said....though it may be painful, love will deliver the message not for itself but for the sake of the person it loves, and it will take no joy in any suffering. Fear on the other hand will enable. Fear will tell selfishness what it wants to hear so it will be loved. It’s really not loving anyone but itself. It’s doing what it takes to be loved. It
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29th Oct 2019
Fox News Asked, "Would a return to Church help mass shootings?"
In an effort to keep from hurting some people’s feelings our nation has taken Jesus out of virtually everything including our children’s schools. Jesus is not the problem He is the only solution. Until we bring Jesus back... it only gets worse from here. How can it be that the only solution...love...is considered the problem. I think because we don’t know what “Love” really is... John 15:13 “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” The opposite of this is lay
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29th Oct 2019
One Reason Marriages Fail
It takes two people to have a loving relationship, but it doesn’t take two perfectly loving people. It just takes two people willing to fight to love instead of fighting to be loved. Chapter 9 of “The Right Fight- How to Live a Loving Life” is all about my own failure to love my own wife. If you haven’t, please read it.....it’s available at shieldsofstrength.com or on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. It’s “why” two people are in a relationship that determines if it will fail or succeed. If we are fi
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29th Oct 2019
What to do in trouble
We should not go around making mountains out of mole hills, but when real trouble comes love runs towards it, not away from it. Run to trouble and ask the most important question....Why? Somewhere in the answer to “Why” is the answer to the trouble. We should be willing to repent if we are the problem. If we are not the problem, don’t respond in anger. Respond with the truth as kindly as you can deliver it. The truth doesn’t need our help or our anger to pack a punch. Then follow the truth where
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29th Oct 2019