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In these chaotic times, it is critical to remember that love is not rude or angry, but fear is; and seeking truth must always supersede our actions.“Anger is something we all feel, and those angry feelings are often beyond our control. I have never figured out how to stop feeling anger. Acting on our angry feelings, though, is something we often can control.“We can feel anger but still choose to be kind. Fear acts on the anger that it feels. Anger does not rule our lives when we feel it. Anger o …

If we could only define one word it should be love, but sadly, it’s the one word few can define. “The Right Fight” was written to define love for my children and help them understand how to live it. Every video I ever create is rooted in what I share in that book. Next to God’s Word, it’s the most valuable thing I have to offer them or anyone else. The fruit of love is the feeling of love. Love is doing what is “truly” best for others without regard for ourself. John 15:13, “Greater love has no …

It is the greatest feeling ever to be loved, and the worst ever to not be loved. But loved or not loved, we still have a responsibility to love. Being loved is great, but it says nothing about us. Whether or not we love says much about us. It’s hard to keep living a loving life when we get hurt, but we must. The whole word can love us, but if we don’t love, it’s all for nothing. Or if no one loves us and we still love, then love rules our life and fruitfulness is our destiny. No one ever said lo …

The whole idea that we should do what we feel is right or go where our emotions lead us is a lie told to destroy us. It’s a lie told so fear can use you for what it wants with no regard for what it will cost you. If I wanted to control and wreck the future of every child in the world, I would tell them to just follow their feelings at all cost. I would tell them to fight for “their” rights instead of fighting for what is right. I would tell them to find a way to justify their feelings. Please, p …

We must first understand our children are new to this life. They really don’t know how to sort out their feelings with what is right. We shouldn’t tolerate their selfishness but we also need to understand they really don’t know the truth yet. We need to take the time to explain to them how to put themselves in the other persons shoes. We must teach them how to love others as if they were them. If we take the time to help them understand that we want them to live a selfless life for their own sak …

The world’s message of making sure people give us what we earned, are owed, need, have coming, or deserve is a lie intended to lead us to destroy ourself. No one owes us anything, and nothing we are missing in our own lives belongs to anyone else. The only thing ever missing in our own lives is what we have to give, and what Jesus has for us. Matthew 16:24 Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. Matthew 16:25 For if …

I used to fight to forgive myself, but then I thought about how I feel about the person that hurt me forgiving themselves, and nothing about that made sense. The truth is, we have no power to forgive ourselves. The only power we have is to repent and forgive others. The beauty and the miracle is that God forgives us. Then our responsibility becomes accepting His forgiveness so we can move forward living a loving life. So His forgiveness in our lives is not in vain, and so His sacrifice on the cr …

Patience is a willingness to trust God’s Word and to trust that love never fails. It’s having the courage to stand on the truth despite everything we see. It is not pretending everything is ok like it is.....it’s a willingness to believe love never fails if we are willing to love. It’s the courage to change if the truth demands it, and to stand if the truth demands we stand despite what we see. Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not gi …

When I became totally convinced that the truth was best for me and those I loved the most....then criticism became my best friend. It still hurts my feelings, and maybe it always will. I must say though, not nearly as much as it once did. Not so much anymore, because the change it has brought to my own life has blessed me so much, I find myself desiring criticism. I desire it so I can be challenged, and so I can get other perspectives and be shown my own blind spots. In the past, the moment I re …

Your destiny is not in the hands of anyone else! Other people do have the power to influence the path it takes to get where God wants you. The idea that no one else can hurt you or change the course it takes to get where God wants you is simply not the truth. Buying that lie leads us to fight people instead of fighting to live a loving life. It leads us to build fences that we think will protect us but only trap us. Boundaries don’t protect us, they destroy us. Fences we think keep others out, o …