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Even if you don’t
Loving someone so they will love us is not love it’s manipulation. Loving someone whether they love us or not is love. Love is not a feeling, it’s a decision to do what is truly best for others without regard for ourself. The feeling of love is the fruit of love not love itself. Daniel 3:14-25,”King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and He will deliver us from Yo
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24th Aug 2019
How to help someone you hurt
Just for clarity -God is love! There is no love without Him. Whether we are the offender or the offended, this is why we all must first run to Jesus. Then as we connect to Him, we become grafted into the vine (Jesus). Then love flows through us, and as love flows through us we forgive, we repent, we love, and loving restores what was taken away. I try to illustrate this with trees and roots and fruit visually in “The Right Fight.” We have all been hurt and we have all hurt someone. Jesus is the
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24th Aug 2019
Does God hate sinners?
“Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get. But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner. I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home just
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23rd Aug 2019
One thing love can’t live without
Gratefulness is a choice. If we are not grateful for little, we won’t be grateful for much either. My wife @tammieavaughan is one of the most grateful people I have ever met. When we were dating, nothing got her more excited then going to Circle K (she called it K’s) for a pack of Little Debbie blueberry muffins and a cherry Slurpee! To this day she gets soooo excited over school supplies like pens and paper for home school, and sometimes I drive 50 miles one way to get her a Big Red Icee at Buc
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23rd Aug 2019
What to do whenever someone is rude to you
The trap is selfishness, the bait is offense, and the only way out is love. Love seeks the truth and sees life inside out. Fear sees life outside in. All fear cares about is what you do and how it makes it feel. Love also has feelings, but it stops and considers why you did what you did. It seeks truth and refuses to let offense lead it to be defensive. Fear is either the plaintiff or the defendant. Love sits on the jury of its own life. Luke 6:35, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend,
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23rd Aug 2019
how to lead your children to suffering
In the name of love our children are being led to their own suffering. It’s not love to demand respect. Love doesn’t expect anything from anyone but itself. Love puts itself last not first, and it does not demand its own way. Fear does all of that. Love’s worst enemy in our lives is our own feelings. Don’t follow your feelings, they will lead you astray. Love seeks the truth at all cost. The truth is often hidden, but it’s never hard to find. If we look at the truth and willingly ignore it, we a
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23rd Aug 2019
How to suffer
Just out living our suffering doesn’t ensure we grow stronger for it. How we move through it determines if we grow stronger or not. Loving through our suffering means still doing what is “truly” best for others without regard for ourself. Loving when we are suffering is extremely difficult. Suffering makes a five pound weight a hundred and five pound weight, but fighting to lift a heavier weight is what makes us stronger. When we keep fighting to live a loving life even in our suffering, then Go
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23rd Aug 2019
What a loving man looks like
A loving man won’t be loving all the time. He will blow it and be rough around the edges, but he won’t defend his own selfishness. More often than not he will be loving. There is not a fiber of his being that can ignore the verbal or physical abuse of women. If another man is verbally or physically abusing a woman in his presence he will stop it or die trying. We need more loving men in this world! Jesus is our example! Galatians 5:22-26, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuf
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23rd Aug 2019
How to move on
Grieving is important. Moving on too fast can be just as damaging as not moving on at all. There is a grieving process, and the time it takes to move on will depend on how much we lost. Moving on doesn’t mean what we lost has no value. It means giving value to what we lost by how we live moving forward, and allow love to continually rule our lives. Whether we are moving on from selfishness or love, God wants to use it all for our good and the good of those we love. He can if we let Him. Don’t ru
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23rd Aug 2019
Is love passive?
The first thing we need to consider before we speak into someone’s life is....what is the likely result of us speaking. Then we should consider how should we speak. The answer is always to speak in a way the other person is most likely to understand what we really mean. In other words, just saying what we think or speaking our mind is not always loving. Sometimes it’s selfish. We should never just speak our mind. We should speak the truth for others sake which means we must deliver the message i
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23rd Aug 2019