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It’s why we do what we do that determines if it’s love or selfishness. Love does what is truly best for others without regard for itself, but love can’t control what others do. If we love someone and they refuse to love, then love may require we step back to ensure we don’t enable the destruction of the selfish person. Or we can protect ourself without regard for them, and make sure they know if they hurt us again what it will cost them....but that just ensures we become what we are fighting. Lo …

I really don’t think love even exist until a sacrifice is required. Loving people who love us is an even exchange. Loving when we are hurt...now that’s real love. This does not mean it’s okay to hurt me. It just means I forgive you for hurting me, and I want you to stop hurting people for your own sake. It’s a fight for you not for me. I just get protected in the process. Really, love protects us better than we could ever protect ourselves anyway. We just can’t do it for ourself, or it’s no long …

The most forgiving people I have ever met are those who believe they have been forgiven of much. The truth is, we have all been forgiven of much. Forgiveness does not require feelings of forgiveness. It requires love despite our feelings. It takes loving over time to change feelings. If after being hurt we refuse to forgive, then the lack of love over time only leads to more problems. Moving forward in forgiveness is an all out fight to live a loving life. The hurt we have suffered will cost us …

“Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ, and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in.” CS Lewis. Philippians 2:3-11 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, bein …