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This was way too important to me to throw up a black screen for a day.The truth is that each life matters to God, because he created each life -- but no one life matters more than another.We are all sinners. God loves the sinner, not the sin.The whole world can say to you your life doesn’t matter and treat you as if it doesn’t. That doesn’t make your life not matter.The whole world can say to you and treat you like your life matters, but that doesn’t make your life matter.What makes your life ma …

I am sure I am jumping into a blender on this, but no one is talking about the truth. No one is talking about the real problem.It’s easy for all of us to see clearly—any sensible person knows that his life was senselessly taken by a selfish man.Was it race? I don’t know if it was race or not.But if it was race, race is still not the problem.Race is a fruit of the problem.Until we deal with the root of the problem, nothing’s going to change. And the rioting, the rioting is a trap that is laid i …

No, they don’t.Bad decisions don’t destroy God’s plan for our lives, but bad decisions certainly do have consequences.All decisions have consequences. I believe we are going in the direction we’re going because of the decisions we are making.It is so important we make loving decisions -- decisions that consider the best interest of others.We say God’s in control, but he is in control when we give him control.God doesn’t follow us wherever we want to go, he wants us to follow him.So, when we are …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love Is Kind“I have rarely met anyone who isn’t kind to those who are kind to them.“Only those whose lives are totally ruled by fear might choose to be unkind to those who are kind to them. But if we want love ruling our lives, we must be kind no matter how others treat us.“Being kind when we don’t feel like it can mean a couple different things. Sometimes it just means what it sounds like: being kind a …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love Is More Than Feelings“In our lives, we experience feelings, and we take actions. Feelings come and go, most often beyond our control. However, decisions and actions are fully in our control. Our decisions and our actions can be based on our feelings, but they don’t have to be. In other words, I can spend my life just reacting to all my feelings, or I can choose to set my feelings aside long enough …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love Protects“Protecting is doing what is truly best for others. So often we think we are loving others by protecting them from truths that would help them become a better person because we don’t want to see them hurt. This is the reason people tell ‘white lies’ or withhold the constructive truth.“But because we know love is always truthful, we can also know that this is never really the loving thing to …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanCourageous Fathers Are Not Prideful“Pride is fear pretending to be strong. Pride always projects strength because it is afraid. True strength projects humility because it is secure.“Fear will push or pull others down in order to pull or lift itself up. Love will push others up even if it means pushing itself down. The key to getting pride out of our lives is being grateful.“Who are the courageous among us? Are the …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love Perseveres“I have heard it said that winners never quit and quitters never win, but so many winners have quit so many times along the way. The greatest memories in any victory are the times we got back up after quitting.“In my fifteen-year journey chasing my dream, the moment it came true may have been the best moment in the journey, but it was only a moment. The journey was where all the value was …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love is Patient“It is easy to be patient when we feel patient, but what do we do when we don’t feel patient? When we are stuck in a line or trying to explain something to someone who just is not getting it? If we let love rule our lives, we don’t have to feel patient in order to be patient.“What is patience? Patience is having the courage to take a deep breath and look for the truth even when we don’t f …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanLoving Fathers Leave Legacies of Love“My grandfather, Ed Vaughan, was a giving and unselfish man.“He was much like most great men—simple, hardworking, loving, and selfless. His faith was very important to him, my family tells me.“Growing up, I always felt my greatest loss was never knowing my grandfather. I still feel that way today. His love and the example of love he lived out would have surely enriched my life …