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GentlenessThe older I get the more I realize the power of gentleness. Most of my life I saw gentleness as weakness. Many men do! When your a young boy getting pushed around gentleness seems to exacerbate the situation. lol... I have learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong. Gentleness is a strong hand with a soft touch. It is a tender, compassionate approach toward others' weaknesses and limitations.TruthA gentle person still speaks tr …

Resolutions FailureWhy do we continue to make resolutions every year even though so few of us follow through? I believe everyone of us are guilty of breaking one or two. So why do we so often fail to follow through on resolutions?Wrong FocusMost of the time it is because we try to fix the results of the problem without fixing the problem. If I put new tires on my car because the inside has no tread, but don't fix the issue causing them to wear uneven, it won't be long before I am back at the ti …

God Has A Plan"I am bent over and racked with pain. All day long I walk around filled with grief"- Psalm 38:6 When we go through difficult times, it can really be tough to hang in there and keep your faith. The most important thing I have learned through a series of severe heartaches due to loss of family, health conditions, and financial stress, is to keep your eyes focused on the Lord and there are NO "unanswered prayers." In this verse, David had his mind so full of grief, he was unable to s …

FearFear is one of the most destructive forces in the world! It causes you to do the things that will make your fears come true and it rarely motivates the right behavior. Men view fear as weakness and use macho behavior mask it.I have found that most women don't even try to hide it. They are openly fearful of rejection, disconnection, abuse and not being valued. Core fears for women are disconnection, not being heard, and losing love and appreciation. Men are afraid of helplessness, being contr …

What Can One Man Do? During his college football career, Tim Tebow frequently wore references to biblical verses on his eye black. In the 2009 BCS Championship Game, he wore John 3:16 on his eye black; the verse was the highest-ranked Google search term over the next 24 hours, generating over 90 million searches. One man in a 24hr period witnessed to 90 million people. We don't all have the ability to reach so many but as I have heard my brother@johnkennedyvaughan say many times before, "If …

Hope "Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: the faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease" -Lamentations 3:21-22Work As Though It Is All Up To Me There have been so many times in my life where I have stopped hoping. It has felt at times that my hopes, dreams, and plans for my life on this Earth have been crushed, pushed aside, or forgotten , despite the effort I put forth. I can remember being a new doctor in residency, and doing everything I could for a patie …

SinTemptations come from every side. No human being gets through life without battling sin. Even with our best efforts, we often relapse into the very sins from which we were rescued. Eventually you will learn that we can’t save ourselves. That’s why we need Jesus (1 Corinthians 15:57; Romans 8:37).Jesus StrengthIf you overcame a sin by your own strength, then that same strength will keep you from a relapse. But I also believe that if Jesus delivered you from that sin, then it will be His streng …

Gold NameDuring Operation Desert Storm, I commanded a Company of Paratroopers in the 82nd Airborne Division and my Battle Buddy was First Sergeant (1SG) Bobby “Airborne” Bell. His name and reputation were solid gold throughout the division. At that point in my career that spanned 3 decades, I was 27 years old. 1SG Bell was in his forties and had served in the Division for most of his career. He was hard as nails and could whip anyone’s butt in the company. He was man’s man for sure, but that i …

Always trust God's Word - Nothing used to make me want to punch someone in the face more than Rudeness! And so Kenny doesn't catch heat for this one, this is Gabe. We were raised to always be respectful and our father would always say “I hate rude behavior in a man. I won’t tolerate it.” So for me it was natural to be very defensive when I encountered rude people.There is a reason why God commands us to love our enemy and if someone slaps you in the cheek offer the other one. I remember one s …

A woman's greatest need is for security. A woman feels most secure when she is with a Husband that is sensitive. In the movie Beauty and the Beast, when the Beast became sensitive he won Bell's heart! Heck, he won mine too! Strong but sensitive! A woman wants a man to learn what is important to her. She doesn’t have to nag him or drop hints. His job is to serve his wife. He identifies what she needs and he makes sure she gets it. A sacrificial husband will sacrifice a hobby or interes …