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Gratefulness is a choice. If we are not grateful for little, we won’t be grateful for much either. My wife @tammieavaughan is one of the most grateful people I have ever met. When we were dating, nothing got her more excited then going to Circle K (she called it K’s) for a pack of Little Debbie blueberry muffins and a cherry Slurpee! To this day she gets soooo excited over school supplies like pens and paper for home school, and sometimes I drive 50 miles one way to get her a Big Red Icee at …

Grieving is important. Moving on too fast can be just as damaging as not moving on at all. There is a grieving process, and the time it takes to move on will depend on how much we lost. Moving on doesn’t mean what we lost has no value. It means giving value to what we lost by how we live moving forward, and allow love to continually rule our lives. Whether we are moving on from selfishness or love, God wants to use it all for our good and the good of those we love. He can if we let Him. Don’t …

Be patient! Slowing down a loving relationship only helps it. Rushing a loving relationship can ruin it. If we rush a broken relationship, all we get is hurt and regret. Fear is always anxious and in a hurry to move a relationship along, because it’s afraid it will lose what it wants. Love is patient because it’s more concerned with you being sure you want to stay then it is with losing what it has. Love takes courage! If it’s not good for both people in a relationship, it’s not good for eith …

First you should know the truth, and you must believe the truth no matter how you feel. The truth is, if someone doesn’t love you, it says nothing about you. Whether or not you love does say something about you. The whole world can love us, but if we refuse to love, fruitlessness is our destiny. Or- no one can love us, but if we love, then love rules our life and fruitfulness is our destiny. It’s so critically important we believe the truth, because what we believe is the foundation of who we …

Anger and all sin are most often our enemy. I do believe there is a righteous anger, but it’s rare. Righteous anger is anger for the damage sin causes, or an anger for someone using love to hurt people....using Jesus to manipulate people. That’s why Jesus threw the tables. Most of the time though, anger is our enemy and not our friend. Rebellion and riots are a trap. Before we get stuck on anger, we must follow one truth to the next truth to the next truth. Truth leads to more truth. If it leads …

Tammie Vaughan shares her personal miscarriage experienceand God's promise when He says, "Even to your old age and gray hairsI am he, I am he who will sustain you.I have made you and I will carry you;I will sustain you and I will rescue you."Isaiah 46:4 …

ForgiveBearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.FearFear is one of the most destructive forces in relationships. It never motivates us to do the right thing. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”Men typically mask their fear by trying to be macho. Women typically don't hide it but it will cause destruction in your relations …

LoveI am scared of God because I see Him as imposing and angry.  How do I get that out of my mind?  I have had this question a few times and at first I was shocked because I have never viewed God in that way. I was always taught that when I was punished or disciplined it was for my benefit and It truly was, because my parent's loved me. I had the benefit of knowing that beyond anything my parents loved me and even though it hurt at the time it was going to give me more opportunity …

PatienceI must say patience is something I struggle with. The true test of patience comes when we feel violated, When a car cuts us off in traffic, when we are treated unfairly. We feel like we have a right to get upset in the face of irritations and trials. Impatience seems like a justifiable anger. The Bible praises patience as a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) which should be produced for all followers of Christ (1 Thessalonians 5:14). Patience reveals our faith in God’s timing …

LoveListen up men! If you need help in your relationship, nothing will make a bigger difference than your relationship with Christ! The world tells us we have to be tough and pride makes us do stupid things in front of our buddies.  However, the Bible says, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself." Good WordsWhen we love the Lord and our neighbor, our hearts change.  …