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Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanUn-Forgiveness Stops Our Lives On A Dime“Because time keeps moving forward, un-forgiveness leads to us living our lives walking backward as we keep staring at what’s happened. It prevents us from focusing on what is happening in our lives.“Forgiving ourselves or others is not about pretending our action or another’s action is OK or no longer regrettable. There are things I did thirty years ago that I despise more …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“I think it is vital that we all understand love and live it, because the opposite of love is fear, which leads to selfishness, and the last thing any of us really wants is for fear to rule our lives.“Love doesn’t just respond to what people do. Love seeks to understand the thought behind the action. That is where the truth is hidden. We must ask ourselves why people do what they do before we respond. It’s not wha …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanMy Father Taught Me: Respect the Threat; But Do Not Fear -- so I am passing this on from him to me, to my children; to you and to your children…“I don’t know much about medicine or viruses, but I do know about fear. I spent more than 15 years battling fear, and seven years writing a book about love and fear, ‘The Right Fight: How To Live A Loving Life.’“Throughout the years, I’ve learned a lot about faith, and t …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“Hope is choosing to believe the truth that no matter what, if we persevere in love, then God will go with us and see us through.“Hope is believing that with God all things are possible. We must keep the fires of hope alive in our lives! Keeping hope alive is not about convincing ourselves we will win or survive. Hope is not believing in ourselves or convincing ourselves we can get what we want. If our hope is in …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanEmotions are running high with the pressures on so many levels of this pandemic: emotions in our homes, our neighborhoods, our communities. Just going to the grocery story can bring out the fear and anger in all of us. Bedlam on grocery aisle four can break out at any time!“Nothing has ever deceived me more than my own feelings."“I have learned that if my feelings don’t align with God’s word and the truth, I shou …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“Being truthful means more than just telling the truth as we see it. It means having the courage to look for the real truth.“Love doesn’t just respond to what people do. Love seeks to understand the thought behind the action because that’s where the truth is hidden. Fear will speak its mind without regard for the truth, or how the words wound, or how they might be received; and without asking the question of why s …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“I have rarely met anyone who isn’t kind to those who are kind to them.“Only those whose lives are totally ruled by fear might choose to be unkind to those who are kind to them.“But if we want love ruling our lives, we must be kind no matter how others treat us. Being kind when we don’t feel like it can mean a couple different things. Sometimes it just means what it sounds like: being kind and doing the right thin …

"Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive." Colossians 3:13 Fear is one of the most destructive forces in relationships. It never motivates us to do the right thing. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Unhealthy fear is not from God. Unhealthy fear includes, fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear from envy, fe …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“I remember that when I was in elementary school, junior high school, and the first years of high school, I had a lot of friends—until all the kids in my age group grew taller and I didn’t. That’s when I went from my classmates scrambling to save me a chair at lunch tables to spending my lunch breaks eating by myself.“For two years, no one wanted to sit with me because I was shorter than my classmates, and it didn …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“The first thing we want to stop doing when we get hurt or [we lose something or someone] is stop trusting—both God and the person [or thing that] has hurt us.“We want to put up fences and draw boundaries to protect ourselves, but we can’t put up fences and draw boundaries and love at the same time. If we love, we trust; and if we don’t trust, we don’t love.“When we put up fences and boundaries, we are seizing con …