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Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanWe Are Not Locked in Our Fearful Choices“Every time we make a choice to act, either in fear or in love, our actions define us at that moment.“If we choose to act in anger, then our anger defines us in that moment. If we feel angry but do not act on that anger, then our anger does not have to define us at that moment.“If we choose to act in love and show kindness, no matter how we feel, we are defined as kind in th …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“Our love or our selfishness has its greatest impact upon our children. There is no one we have more influence over than our own children. From birth, they hang on every word we say. I don’t think we normally think about this. We are busy and have so much on our minds that we do what feels right at any one time without realizing how deep our kindness or rudeness can touch our children.“One time, I had decided to r …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“I’ve observed that before people will follow you, they will need to believe three things about you.“First, they need to believe that you have some knowledge of where you are going. Second, they need to know you won’t sacrifice them for the mission. Finally, they need to believe you won’t sacrifice them for yourself. Note that I am not talking about a boss.“The boss is the opposite of a leader. A boss drives peopl …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“I have heard it said that winners never quit and quitters never win, but so many winners have quit so many times along the way.“The greatest memories in any victory are the times we got back up after quitting. In my fifteen-year journey chasing my dream [of a national water-ski jump championship], the moment it came true may have been the best moment in the journey, but it was only a moment.“The journey was where …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan1 Corinthians13 tells us: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.“It is easy to be patient when we feel patient, but what do we do when we don’t feel patient? When we are stuck in a line or trying to explain somethin …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“The first shall be last, and the last shall be first. Those are the concepts discussed in my book, ‘The Right Fight’”.“What you do does not matter so much as why you do it—whether your actions stem from a loving desire to put God and the people around you before yourself or from a fearful distrust that love will protect you and a selfish desire to win first.“Focusing on the fruit or the blessings in your life wi …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy Vaughan“So often we think we are loving others by protecting them from truths that would help them become a better person because we don’t want to see them hurt. This is the reason people tell ‘white lies’ or withhold the constructive truth.“But because we know love is always truthful, we can also know that this is never really the loving thing to do, and such ‘protection’ is not consistent with what real love is.“Protec …

Reflecting back over my life, I know that “winning the Nationals was huge for me, but being able to be my best in the worst circumstances of my career and having the heart of a champion instead of a heart filled with fear was the most life-changing thing of all.“It blew my mind that after years of fighting to overcome my fear, doing everything I could to defeat it, giving up led to my freedom from fear—not giving up fighting but giving up fighting fear. Getting in the right fight.“For years, I s …

Wives should not depend on their husbands for their peace and joy. Only Jesus can provide that, but a loving husband can sure make it a heck of a lot easier for a wife to live in joy and peace. Loving our wives is a daily decision to do what is truly best for them without regard for ourself. It doesn’t mean ignoring truth, but it does mean putting them before ourself. Fear always looks out for itself....love always looks out for her. Ephesians 5:25,”Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also …

We must first understand our children are new to this life. They really don’t know how to sort out their feelings with what is right. We shouldn’t tolerate their selfishness but we also need to understand they really don’t know the truth yet. We need to take the time to explain to them how to put themselves in the other persons shoes. We must teach them how to love others as if they were them. If we take the time to help them understand that we want them to live a selfless life for their own sak …