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In the name of love our children are being led to their own suffering. It’s not love to demand respect. Love doesn’t expect anything from anyone but itself. Love puts itself last not first, and it does not demand its own way. Fear does all of that. Love’s worst enemy in our lives is our own feelings. Don’t follow your feelings, they will lead you astray. Love seeks the truth at all cost. The truth is often hidden, but it’s never hard to find. If we look at the truth and willingly ignore it, we a …

Feeling love for someone is not equal to loving them. Many times the feeling of love is the fruit of love. It can also be infatuation, or a strong desire for someone or something for what we can gain. We may also feel love for someone we actually love. It is so important we know the difference. Love doesn’t expect anything in return. If we love ourselves we expect to be loved. This trap destroys so many relationships. “The Right Fight” takes at look at this from many angles and digs deeper to th …

It’s not loving to knowingly allow people with no intention of changing to keep running over you. That’s selfishness. Love does trust and seeks truth, and if people are truly repentant after failing, then love trusts again and again. We all fail - often even when love rules our life. We have a responsibility to seek the truth and pray and decide if someone is really in the fight to live a loving life. If they are, we should trust God, pray for them, and give them a second chance. Trusting someon …

I’m not positive, but I don’t think love even exists until a sacrifice is required. When someone hurts us, then a sacrifice is required. We can either sacrifice them, or we can sacrifice ourself. Fear will sacrifice them. Love will be the sacrifice, but love won’t sacrifice for foolishness. It will only be the sacrifice for truth. Love always perseveres. If someone really loves you, they will want what is truly best for you. Even if love forces them to step away, they will still want you to live …

Forgiving is the best thing we can do for ourself, but if we do it for ourself, it’s not forgiveness it’s selfishness. We should forgive because we are forgiven. It’s not suggesting what someone did was ok, that it didn’t hurt us, that it doesn’t still hurt us, or that it would be ok if they did it again. It’s just a decision to say, despite the hurt you caused me, I still want what is best for you. The story Jesus told of the prodigal son is a beautiful example of love and real forgiveness. Eph …

Loving to be loved is not love it’s manipulation. If someone is loving us because we love them, then they may not be loving us at all. They may be loving themselves. It’s not always malicious either. Sometimes it’s all they know, and sometimes it’s all we know. That’s why it’s so important we love Jesus, because He will teach us how to really love. If the person who loves you hates their enemies, that’s a …

  Anger and all sin are most often our enemy. I do believe there is a righteous anger, but it’s rare. Righteous anger is anger for the damage sin causes, or an anger for someone using love to hurt people....using Jesus to manipulate people. That’s why Jesus threw the tables. Most of the time though, anger is our enemy and not our friend. Rebellion and riots are a trap. Before we get stuck on anger, we must follow one truth to the next truth to the next truth. Truth leads to more truth. …

If someone loves you they will protect you. They are not perfect in love, but they will want to be. They won’t defend their selfishness. They will fight to protect you at all cost. They would prefer to pay the price then to see you pay the price for sin. If they hurt you, they will not make excuses. They will regret it and be quick to repent. If we love someone we will protect them, and if someone loves us they will protect us. If we love, we are more concerned with protecting then we are being …

It’s not loving to knowingly allow people with no intention of changing to keep running over you. That’s selfishness. Love does trust and seeks truth, and if people are truly repentant after failing, then love trusts again and again. We all fail - often even when love rules our life. We have a responsibility to seek the truth and pray and decide if someone is really in the fight to live a loving life. If they are, we should trust God, pray for them, and give them a second chance. Trusting someon …