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Trusting God is not equal to just trusting everything will work out. It also doesn’t mean “all things happen for a reason.” All things do happen for a reason, but many times the reason is our selfishness or someone else’s selfishness, or the effects of living on a fallen earth. God’s Word doesn’t say all things happen for a reason. It says all things work together for the good of those who love Him. In order to trust God, we must first know what He says, then fight to do what He says, and then t …

The world tells us that being loved is what heals us. It even suggests we should first love ourself. This is not the truth, and only leads to more suffering and dependence on either ourself or others. We are not even capable of healing a broken heart, and neither is someone else capable of healing us. To expect that from others is not fair to them. Only God can heal broken hearts and that is His whole mission. God is love. When we love, we connect to Jesus and when we connect to the vine, fruitf …

Someone may be a better fit for us, and they may be more loving than someone else, but if we ever buy the lie we or someone else is better or more valuable than someone else, we become a part of the problem. I am not suggesting we should remain in a relationship with a person stuck on selfish. Love never pretends selfishness is ok. I am just saying stuck on selfish -or extremely loving- none of us are more valuable or better than the other. This is a fundamental truth that we must understand. If …

I think it is important to find ourself, because there are gifts we are born with that are vital to become who God created us to be. That said, I think these gifts are virtually impossible to lose. They are created into our very being. What is incredibly important is that we realize the difference between our created gifts and our sinful nature. Our strongest desires are not necessarily our gifts. They may be our sinful nature. Our gifts are the most valuable things we have to offer others. They …

If someone loves you, they will only do what is truly best for you with no regard for themselves and expecting nothing in return. Of course none of us are perfectly loving, but if they mess up they won’t defend their mess up, make excuses, or blame it on someone else. They will own it and repent. If they believe you’re missing the truth, they will tell you and do anything they can to help you change. They won’t support anything you want. They will only support what they believe is best for you. …

Valid or not valid- don’t allow feelings to lead your life. Consider them, but don’t follow them. In my own life, nothing has mislead me more than my feelings. Now and then they lead me to truth, but most often to destruction. If we follow our feelings, we will live a life based on a lie that has one goal. To use us to hurt the people around us in the process of destroying ourself. Seek the truth and follow the truth regardless of your feelings. The truth leads to fruitfulness. If you haven’t re …

Hope in the truth is a strategy. It’s a strategy worth fighting for. That said, we can’t just hope in anything. God’s Word teaches us to hope in the truth. Our hope is in Jesus, and when we trust in Him and fight to live a loving life, we can trust our hope more than our feelings. Hebrews 6:17-20, “Because God wanted to make the unchanging nature of His purpose very clear to the heirs of what was promised, He confirmed it with an oath. God did this so that, by two unchangeable things in which it …

“The Right Fight” “How To Live a Loving Life” is the most important lessons I have ever learned in my life. Available at Shieldsofstrength.com, Amazon, and most book stores. If you haven’t already, please get a copy. The world wants us to fight first, so we end up surrendering. Love requires we surrender first, and end up fighting. Every video I ever share is based on the truths I share in “The Right Fight.” Matthew 10:39,”Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for m …

If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

I think rejection is rooted in fear which is rooted in “me.” I still feel it often, but every time I dig deeper, I find myself conflicted between the “me” in me wanting what it wants, while at the same time desiring what is right and what God wants. I know God's way is best for me, yet I still want what I want. I have learned if something is not good for everyone, it's not good for anyone. The most miraculous thing about love is that it's the only thing that is always best for everyone. …