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ANALYTICSEDIT VIDEO If something you’re doing is wrecking your life, it’s rooted in a false belief. The truth can be hard, but it saves lives.... it doesn’t wreck them. It may not be easy to change what you believe, but if you’re willing to seek truth no matter how it feels, it will radically change every area of your life. We think what we think and we do what we do because we believe what we believe. I talk about this at length in “The Right Fight”. How to live a loving life. God’s Word is …

This one may really get me in hot water. Unconditional acceptance is what the doctors call codependency. It’s a fantasy word for loving to be loved. It’s not love at all though... it’s manipulation. When we love to be loved.....the only person we are loving is ourself. We are doing what we believe is best for us without regard for others. Truthfully, we are not loving at all. We are manipulating. This is the greatest trap of fear and it’s always baited with hurt. Don’t take the bait! We are all …

We must first understand our children are new to this life. They really don’t know how to sort out their feelings with what is right. We shouldn’t tolerate their selfishness but we also need to understand they really don’t know the truth yet. We need to take the time to explain to them how to put themselves in the other persons shoes. We must teach them how to love others as if they were them. If we take the time to help them understand that we want them to live a selfless life for their own sak …

I get hurt and you get hurt. Some of us get hurt far worse than others. Being hurt though says nothing about us. How we respond to hurt says much about us. Please realize, that people hurting you says nothing about you. Jesus told us to turn the other cheek not so we would be a victim, but so we could become victorious. A popular and far too often true statement is, “hurting people hurt people.” Sadly, this is often true because we allow hurt to keep us from living a loving life. We fight back a …

The truth is never hard to find, but it takes a lot of courage to be willing to look for it. It is always simple and easy to understand, so long as we are willing to set aside our own feelings. It’s found by digging deeper because if it’s true, the more we dig, the more truth we find. Lies, on the other hand, don’t want anyone digging into anything. So they respond with all kind of confusion and emotions, and pretend the truth is subject to them or their feelings. When we try to alter the truth …

Valid or not valid- don’t allow feelings to lead your life. Consider them, but don’t follow them. In my own life, nothing has mislead me more than my feelings. Now and then they lead me to truth, but most often to destruction. If we follow our feelings, we will live a life based on a lie that has one goal. To use us to hurt the people around us in the process of destroying ourself. Seek the truth and follow the truth regardless of your feelings. The truth leads to fruitfulness. If you haven’t re …

If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

The trap is selfishness, the bait is offense, and the only way out is love. Love seeks the truth and sees life inside out. Fear sees life outside in. All fear cares about is what you do and how it makes it feel. Love also has feelings, but it stops and considers why you did what you did. It seeks truth and refuses to let offense lead it to be defensive. Fear is either the plaintiff or the defendant. Love sits on the jury of its own life. Luke 6:35, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, …