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This one may really get me in hot water. Unconditional acceptance is what the doctors call codependency. It’s a fantasy word for loving to be loved. It’s not love at all though... it’s manipulation. When we love to be loved.....the only person we are loving is ourself. We are doing what we believe is best for us without regard for others. Truthfully, we are not loving at all. We are manipulating. This is the greatest trap of fear and it’s always baited with hurt. Don’t take the bait! We are all …

I wonder if loving someone who is loving us is even love at all. Maybe it’s just an even exchange. Doesn’t cost anyone anything. The most loved I have ever felt by @tammieavaughan are the times she has loved me in my selfishness. That’s when I know she really loves me. Our greatest opportunity to grow stronger is when we are under a strain. The greatest opportunity you ever have to grow closer to God is when you love through hurt. If you want the power of God in your life, get busy loving God an …

Loving someone so they will love us is not love it’s manipulation. Loving someone whether they love us or not is love. Love is not a feeling, it’s a decision to do what is truly best for others without regard for ourself. The feeling of love is the fruit of love not love itself. Daniel 3:14-25,”King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and He will deliver us from Yo …

A loving man won’t be loving all the time. He will blow it and be rough around the edges, but he won’t defend his own selfishness. More often than not he will be loving. There is not a fiber of his being that can ignore the verbal or physical abuse of women. If another man is verbally or physically abusing a woman in his presence he will stop it or die trying. We need more loving men in this world! Jesus is our example! Galatians 5:22-26, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuf …

Feelings are real and they are for a reason. They are also valid, but more than anything they are misleading. Sometimes our feelings lead us to the truth, but more often than not, if we follow them we will be led astray. Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? Proverbs 28:26 Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered. 1 John 3:20 For whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our hea …

It’s why we do what we do that determines if it’s love or selfishness. Love does what is truly best for others without regard for itself, but love can’t control what others do. If we love someone and they refuse to love, then love may require we step back to ensure we don’t enable the destruction of the selfish person. Or we can protect ourself without regard for them, and make sure they know if they hurt us again what it will cost them....but that just ensures we become what we are fighting. Lo …