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One Way to Know Someone Is Not Loving You, But Using YouThis is one way to know that someone is using you -- not loving you.This isn’t the only way to know but it is a major red flag.If someone is unwilling to criticize you or challenge you; to rebuke you or tell you the truth in love, that you need to change – they are not loving you.If they are unwilling to risk their relationship with you -- not willing to risk you no longer loving them -- in order to share the truth with you and what is …

If we risk our life to rescue someone so we can be a hero, it’s selfish. If we risk our life so someone else may live, it’s love. If we demand our children respect us so we can be respected, it’s selfish. If we demand our children respect us so they will be respectful, it’s love. God sees us inside out, and He wants us to see each other the same way. He looks on the heart.....”why” we do what we do. I pray you will check yourself and that I will do the same. The best possible thing we can ever d …

We shouldn’t be in the business of policing everyone else’s decisions. The Bible tells us to get the log out of our own eye before we try to help someone remove the splinter from their eye. That said, loving someone who makes a habit of being selfish or is extremely selfish does mean challenging them to change for their own sake. Pretending it’s ok for someone to continue to abuse you or take advantage of you is not loving them. Love speaks truth. Not every truth is worth defending, but when one …

Both self hate and self love require a focus on “SELF.” The idea that self love is the answer to self hate is a lie. It’s a trap! A trap that leads to self destruction. The problem is....SELF....which is rooted in fear. The only solution to the trap of self is Jesus-who is love (selfless)! Fight for your life and you will lose it. Give up your life and you will find it. Matthew 10:39,”Those who try to gain their own life will lose it; but those who lose their life for my sake will gain it.” …