Is self care selfish?

If we risk our life to rescue someone so we can be a hero, it’s selfish. If we risk our life so someone else may live, it’s love. If we demand our children respect us so we can be respected, it’s selfish. If we demand our children respect us so they will be respectful, it’s love. God sees us inside out, and He wants us to see each other the same way. He looks on the heart.....”why” we do what we do. I pray you will check yourself and that I will do the same. The best possible thing we can ever do for ourself is to live a loving life. We just can’t do it for ourself or it’s no longer love. 1Samuel 16:7,”But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”