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If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

The most powerful force in the universe is love. We all possess the power to love, and it only works for others. No one’s love is more powerful than yours. Loving ourself doesn’t empower us, it destroys us, and we don’t control if we are loved. If we insist people love us, then it’s no longer love it’s manipulation. Love expects nothing from anyone, and it is impossible to use love, because the moment we use it then it’s no longer love. Fighting to be respected, to get what we deserve, for our r …

Luke 9:48, Then he said to them, "Whoever welcomes this little child in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me. For it is the one who is least among you all who is the greatest." I will never forget being escorted through The Pentagon by active duty Colonel David Dodd who had just returned from war. He escorted me into the offices of the Secretary of Defense and the office of Four Star General William Boykin (the head of a special task force in the war on terro …

I think if we could be worthy of God’s love, then we would have never needed Jesus. Maybe the most foolish thing we can ever do is to suggest that what we have received by grace makes us more worthy than anyone else. Only Jesus who is truth and love is worthy to set us free, and our mission should be to seek Him at all cost. 2 Corinthians 3:5, “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God.” …

Fear requires your help to hurt you. It’s bait is hurt and it’s greatest trap is self defense. Please don’t fight fear. It’s the wrong fight. It’s the fight for your fruit. The fight for your own destruction. The Right Fight is the fight for love. The fight for your roots not your fruit. The fight to love not to be loved. Matthew 16:25,”For if you want to save your own life, you will lose it; but if you lose your life for my sake, you will find it.” 1 John 4:18,”There is no fear in love. But per …

Selfishness leads to fruitlessness, and selflessness leads to fruitfulness. I’m still learning how to fight to live a loving life. Fear’s goal is to lead us to selfishness. Love requires we are selfless. No one gets through this life without a fight. “The Right Fight” is the fight to live a selfless life. It’s a fight with ourself and for what is right. The wrong fight is the fight for ourself and our rights. Philippians 2:3-8,”Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humil …

Every time I record a video I ask for @tammieavaughan input because I know she will tell me the truth. Still every time she says “not sure about that one” I feel rejected. Lol. Lord help me and thank you Tammie for loving me!!! Unconditional acceptance and approval is not love it’s selfishness. It’s a total disregard for what is truly best for the other person. If someone loves you, they will challenge you when they believe you need to be challenged. They should do it kindly, but I would rather …

When we come to understand the truth of what love really is, and how Jesus loves us despite ourself and our sin, and we love Him for loving us, then everything changes. We don’t love Jesus so He will love us. He already loves us, but our life doesn’t change until we love Him. It’s the insane truth of His love for us that sets us free. When that truth drops from our head to our heart we become grateful. Extremely grateful, and so much so, all we want to do is love Jesus and others like He loves u …

I wonder if loving someone who is loving us is even love at all. Maybe it’s just an even exchange. Doesn’t cost anyone anything. The most loved I have ever felt by @tammieavaughan are the times she has loved me in my selfishness. That’s when I know she really loves me. Our greatest opportunity to grow stronger is when we are under a strain. The greatest opportunity you ever have to grow closer to God is when you love through hurt. If you want the power of God in your life, get busy loving God an …

If we believe we are better than other people we may be in the most danger. Fear’s trap is to lead us to believe we are less valuable than others so we will then strive to be more valuable than others. The truth sets us free, and that truth is realizing we are no more or less valuable than anyone else, that our decisions do matter, and that no one can earn the love of God. Ephesians 2:8-10,”For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of G …