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Hurt requires sacrifice. I do my best to explain how this works in “The Right Fight” with real life examples and visual illustrations. This truth has helped me get in....the fight to live a loving life. If you hurt me, I have no choice but to either love (absorb the hurt) or fear (make you pay the price for the hurt). If I make you pay the price and I don’t forgive, we both lose. If however, I absorb the hurt, I now have an opportunity to speak truth into your life. I can tell you I forgive you, …

Feeling love for someone is not equal to loving them. Many times the feeling of love is the fruit of love. It can also be infatuation, or a strong desire for someone or something for what we can gain. We may also feel love for someone we actually love. It is so important we know the difference. Love doesn’t expect anything in return. If we love ourselves we expect to be loved. This trap destroys so many relationships. “The Right Fight” takes at look at this from many angles and digs deeper to th …

It takes courage to listen and ask simple questions. Fear always pretends to be strong, so it will risk passing over the fundamentals never realizing it’s building a house on sand. True strength is okay with not knowing everything, and asks questions so it can dig deeper and build a firm foundation. Matthew 7:24-27 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and be …

Forgiving is the best thing we can do for ourself, but if we do it for ourself, it’s not forgiveness it’s selfishness. We should forgive because we are forgiven. It’s not suggesting what someone did was ok, that it didn’t hurt us, that it doesn’t still hurt us, or that it would be ok if they did it again. It’s just a decision to say, despite the hurt you caused me, I still want what is best for you. The story Jesus told of the prodigal son is a beautiful example of love and real forgiveness. Eph …

Loving to be loved is not love it’s manipulation. If someone is loving us because we love them, then they may not be loving us at all. They may be loving themselves. It’s not always malicious either. Sometimes it’s all they know, and sometimes it’s all we know. That’s why it’s so important we love Jesus, because He will teach us how to really love. If the person who loves you hates their enemies, that’s a …

I find it much easier to doubt what I see then to doubt what God does in my own heart. Fear sees life outside in. Love sees life inside out. I wrote a whole chapter in “The Right Fight” titled Inside Out. Seeing inside out changed so much in my own life for the better! It helps me make better decisions and have more peace. By the way after many request I will also be posting every video on Twitter @jkennedyvaughan 1 Samuel 16:7 For God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearan …

Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” 1 John 4:12-16 if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in the …

  Anger and all sin are most often our enemy. I do believe there is a righteous anger, but it’s rare. Righteous anger is anger for the damage sin causes, or an anger for someone using love to hurt people....using Jesus to manipulate people. That’s why Jesus threw the tables. Most of the time though, anger is our enemy and not our friend. Rebellion and riots are a trap. Before we get stuck on anger, we must follow one truth to the next truth to the next truth. Truth leads to more truth. …

Justice as I understand it, is a payment equal to the damage done in an effort to restore the damaged. If someone hurts us, they can’t fix us and we can’t fix ourselves. Justice does not restore us. Loving over time is the only thing that can restore us. Demanding justice keeps us from loving over time, and only ensures we are not restored. Repentance is truly best for others...real repentance....real change. Matthew 18:23-35 “Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a king who decide …

Nothing has transformed my life, lightened my burdens, and strengthened me when facing fear like the truths I share in “The Right Fight!” It has made me a better father, son, husband, brother, businessman, athlete, friend, and neighbor. It’s the one thing that determines everything. It’s not my ideas. It’s truth -and all I’m trying to do is shed light on truths worth digging for. If you read it, please let me know your thoughts- Good or bad. I want truth at all cost. Even if it hurts. The book i …