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This question is important. I am seeing this happen everywhere – people becoming what they hate.How do you become what you hate?No one thinks they’re going to become what they hate, and they very seldom realize when they are becoming what they hate.But the way you become what you hate is by hating the people who hurt you. You hate your enemies.When we hate, we become the problem.It’s okay to hate sin and it’s okay to hate what people do. It’s just not okay to hate the person(s).We are to love o …

My first thought is to give them a fist in the face – that’s the old Kenny reacting; but Jesus says turn the other cheek.So how do you sort that out?I’ve struggled with this for a long time, but love does what is truly best for others without regard for itself.The truth is if you truly love someone who is abusing you, you don’t want them to act abusively to anyone, and you will not enable them or help them to abuse anyone including yourself.So, if you love them, you do what’s best for them. You …

This is a serious falsehood.This subject gets me more 'unfollows' on Instagram than any other, but please think about it. It’s not my truth but it is a truth that set me free.Anyone who tells you to love yourself first doesn’t understand love. Neither did I for half of my life.Until you love yourself, you can’t love others is one of the worst lies we have ever been told. It’s like the perfect lie.The truth is if we love ourselves, we can’t love others. Because love puts something first. If I put …

How Do You Change People?We can’t really change anyone, but Jesus can, and sometimes he lets us be a part of that change.There’s only one way to change people: that’s from the inside out.You’ve got to change the roots of a tree to change its fruit. If you change the roots, the fruit will take care of itself. If you fight the fruit, try to change people from the outside in, what needs to be changed just keeps getting worse.It’s like pruning the tree. If the roots are rotten, we can do all the pr …

Should You Do What Feels Right?This truth will change your life: should you do what you feel is right?God didn’t give you feelings so you would follow them. My feelings could care less what is right.What is right to me is how you make me feel right now. You hurt me then I hurt you worse. You love me and I love you more until you hurt me.So. I’m letting you and my feelings control my life. All that leads me to fight for lies that destroy me; and leads me to encourage others to destroy their live …

Why Does God Allow Evil?This is a difficult question for most people. And I would guess it is a big reason many people choose not to believe. The simplest way to look at this question is to examine God’s nature and his desire for mankind. God loves us and wants us to love him back. If your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife had no choice about loving you, would you feel the same about him or her? God could have made us like robots without the ability to make choices but we’d be forced to do …

One Way to Know Someone Is Not Loving You, But Using YouThis is one way to know that someone is using you -- not loving you.This isn’t the only way to know but it is a major red flag.If someone is unwilling to criticize you or challenge you; to rebuke you or tell you the truth in love, that you need to change – they are not loving you.If they are unwilling to risk their relationship with you -- not willing to risk you no longer loving them -- in order to share the truth with you and what is …

One thing that will destroy God’s plan for your life is an unwillingness to repent.You know if we go the wrong way, we have to be willing to admit it and to say,”I don’t want to go the wrong way, I want to go the right way.”It’s not really that hard to determine if we are going the wrong way or the right way.It can be very difficult to have the courage to self-exam. But we can’t be the plaintiff or the defendant in our own lives. If we try, we are going to wreck ourselves.We have to be willing t …

This is one way to know that someone is using you -- not loving you.This isn’t the only way to know but it is a major red flag.If someone is unwilling to criticize you or challenge you; to rebuke you or tell you the truth in love, that you need to change – they are not loving you.If they are unwilling to risk their relationship with you -- not willing to risk you no longer loving them -- in order to share the truth with you and what is truly best for you: they are not loving you, they’re loving …

One way to know you are going in the wrong direction is if everyone else is going the same direction.You know, the world is led by fear. We say: the world this, the world that. What is the world?The world is selfishness and it’s lead by fear so it’s always doing what’s best for itself, without regard for others. The world is always doing what feels right.So, you think, if everybody else is doing it, it can’t be wrong. No, no, no!! If everybody else is doing it, it almost can’t be right. Because …