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Hurt requires sacrifice. I do my best to explain how this works in “The Right Fight” with real life examples and visual illustrations. This truth has helped me get in....the fight to live a loving life. If you hurt me, I have no choice but to either love (absorb the hurt) or fear (make you pay the price for the hurt). If I make you pay the price and I don’t forgive, we both lose. If however, I absorb the hurt, I now have an opportunity to speak truth into your life. I can tell you I forgive you, …

Feeling love for someone is not equal to loving them. Many times the feeling of love is the fruit of love. It can also be infatuation, or a strong desire for someone or something for what we can gain. We may also feel love for someone we actually love. It is so important we know the difference. Love doesn’t expect anything in return. If we love ourselves we expect to be loved. This trap destroys so many relationships. “The Right Fight” takes at look at this from many angles and digs deeper to th …

It’s not loving to knowingly allow people with no intention of changing to keep running over you. That’s selfishness. Love does trust and seeks truth, and if people are truly repentant after failing, then love trusts again and again. We all fail - often even when love rules our life. We have a responsibility to seek the truth and pray and decide if someone is really in the fight to live a loving life. If they are, we should trust God, pray for them, and give them a second chance. Trusting someon …

I’m not positive, but I don’t think love even exists until a sacrifice is required. When someone hurts us, then a sacrifice is required. We can either sacrifice them, or we can sacrifice ourself. Fear will sacrifice them. Love will be the sacrifice, but love won’t sacrifice for foolishness. It will only be the sacrifice for truth. Love always perseveres. If someone really loves you, they will want what is truly best for you. Even if love forces them to step away, they will still want you to live …

II Timothy 3:16-17 “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. “ If someone agrees with you even when you know you’re wrong, maybe they don’t love you. Who do you know that you can count on for telling you the truth for your own sake, even if it hurts? They love you! Thank them! …

It takes courage to listen and ask simple questions. Fear always pretends to be strong, so it will risk passing over the fundamentals never realizing it’s building a house on sand. True strength is okay with not knowing everything, and asks questions so it can dig deeper and build a firm foundation. Matthew 7:24-27 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and be …

Forgiving is the best thing we can do for ourself, but if we do it for ourself, it’s not forgiveness it’s selfishness. We should forgive because we are forgiven. It’s not suggesting what someone did was ok, that it didn’t hurt us, that it doesn’t still hurt us, or that it would be ok if they did it again. It’s just a decision to say, despite the hurt you caused me, I still want what is best for you. The story Jesus told of the prodigal son is a beautiful example of love and real forgiveness. Eph …

Loving to be loved is not love it’s manipulation. If someone is loving us because we love them, then they may not be loving us at all. They may be loving themselves. It’s not always malicious either. Sometimes it’s all they know, and sometimes it’s all we know. That’s why it’s so important we love Jesus, because He will teach us how to really love. If the person who loves you hates their enemies, that’s a …

I find it much easier to doubt what I see then to doubt what God does in my own heart. Fear sees life outside in. Love sees life inside out. I wrote a whole chapter in “The Right Fight” titled Inside Out. Seeing inside out changed so much in my own life for the better! It helps me make better decisions and have more peace. By the way after many request I will also be posting every video on Twitter @jkennedyvaughan 1 Samuel 16:7 For God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearan …

Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” 1 John 4:12-16 if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in the …