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A loving man won’t be loving all the time. He will blow it and be rough around the edges, but he won’t defend his own selfishness. More often than not he will be loving. There is not a fiber of his being that can ignore the verbal or physical abuse of women. If another man is verbally or physically abusing a woman in his presence he will stop it or die trying. We need more loving men in this world! Jesus is our example! Galatians 5:22-26, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuf …

Grieving is important. Moving on too fast can be just as damaging as not moving on at all. There is a grieving process, and the time it takes to move on will depend on how much we lost. Moving on doesn’t mean what we lost has no value. It means giving value to what we lost by how we live moving forward, and allow love to continually rule our lives. Whether we are moving on from selfishness or love, God wants to use it all for our good and the good of those we love. He can if we let Him. Don’t ru …

The first thing we need to consider before we speak into someone’s life is....what is the likely result of us speaking. Then we should consider how should we speak. The answer is always to speak in a way the other person is most likely to understand what we really mean. In other words, just saying what we think or speaking our mind is not always loving. Sometimes it’s selfish. We should never just speak our mind. We should speak the truth for others sake which means we must deliver the message i …

Hurt requires sacrifice. I do my best to explain how this works in “The Right Fight” with real life examples and visual illustrations. This truth has helped me get in....the fight to live a loving life. If you hurt me, I have no choice but to either love (absorb the hurt) or fear (make you pay the price for the hurt). If I make you pay the price and I don’t forgive, we both lose. If however, I absorb the hurt, I now have an opportunity to speak truth into your life. I can tell you I forgive you, …

Feeling love for someone is not equal to loving them. Many times the feeling of love is the fruit of love. It can also be infatuation, or a strong desire for someone or something for what we can gain. We may also feel love for someone we actually love. It is so important we know the difference. Love doesn’t expect anything in return. If we love ourselves we expect to be loved. This trap destroys so many relationships. “The Right Fight” takes at look at this from many angles and digs deeper to th …

It’s not loving to knowingly allow people with no intention of changing to keep running over you. That’s selfishness. Love does trust and seeks truth, and if people are truly repentant after failing, then love trusts again and again. We all fail - often even when love rules our life. We have a responsibility to seek the truth and pray and decide if someone is really in the fight to live a loving life. If they are, we should trust God, pray for them, and give them a second chance. Trusting someon …

I’m not positive, but I don’t think love even exists until a sacrifice is required. When someone hurts us, then a sacrifice is required. We can either sacrifice them, or we can sacrifice ourself. Fear will sacrifice them. Love will be the sacrifice, but love won’t sacrifice for foolishness. It will only be the sacrifice for truth. Love always perseveres. If someone really loves you, they will want what is truly best for you. Even if love forces them to step away, they will still want you to live …

II Timothy 3:16-17 “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. “ If someone agrees with you even when you know you’re wrong, maybe they don’t love you. Who do you know that you can count on for telling you the truth for your own sake, even if it hurts? They love you! Thank them! …

It takes courage to listen and ask simple questions. Fear always pretends to be strong, so it will risk passing over the fundamentals never realizing it’s building a house on sand. True strength is okay with not knowing everything, and asks questions so it can dig deeper and build a firm foundation. Matthew 7:24-27 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and be …

Forgiving is the best thing we can do for ourself, but if we do it for ourself, it’s not forgiveness it’s selfishness. We should forgive because we are forgiven. It’s not suggesting what someone did was ok, that it didn’t hurt us, that it doesn’t still hurt us, or that it would be ok if they did it again. It’s just a decision to say, despite the hurt you caused me, I still want what is best for you. The story Jesus told of the prodigal son is a beautiful example of love and real forgiveness. Eph …