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If we could only define one word it should be love, but sadly, it’s the one word few can define. “The Right Fight” was written to define love for my children and help them understand how to live it. Every video I ever create is rooted in what I share in that book. Next to God’s Word, it’s the most valuable thing I have to offer them or anyone else. The fruit of love is the feeling of love. Love is doing what is “truly” best for others without regard for ourself. John 15:13, “Greater love has no …

I don’t think Jesus was saying some are righteous and some are not. I think He was saying He has nothing to offer the self righteous, but for the honest who are willing to own their sin, He has healing, forgiveness, and life. Love seeks truth and the truth is, I have no idea how anyone makes it without Jesus. Mark 2:17,”When Jesus heard this, He told them, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do. I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who know they are s …

I wonder if loving someone who is loving us is even love at all. Maybe it’s just an even exchange. Doesn’t cost anyone anything. The most loved I have ever felt by @tammieavaughan are the times she has loved me in my selfishness. That’s when I know she really loves me. Our greatest opportunity to grow stronger is when we are under a strain. The greatest opportunity you ever have to grow closer to God is when you love through hurt. If you want the power of God in your life, get busy loving God an …

Offense is a trap! It’s a trap that wants to lead us to a fear led life. When we feel offended, it should lead us to first look within ourself and then seek the truth. If we are easily offended then we no longer live in control of our own life, but instead give control of our life and our peace to the fearful among us. Love is not easily offended....fear is. This does not mean that if people intentionally hurt us we should be ok with it. It certainly doesn’t mean if someone will physically harm …

Just for clarity -God is love! There is no love without Him. Whether we are the offender or the offended, this is why we all must first run to Jesus. Then as we connect to Him, we become grafted into the vine (Jesus). Then love flows through us, and as love flows through us we forgive, we repent, we love, and loving restores what was taken away. I try to illustrate this with trees and roots and fruit visually in “The Right Fight.” We have all been hurt and we have all hurt someone. Jesus is the …

The trap is selfishness, the bait is offense, and the only way out is love. Love seeks the truth and sees life inside out. Fear sees life outside in. All fear cares about is what you do and how it makes it feel. Love also has feelings, but it stops and considers why you did what you did. It seeks truth and refuses to let offense lead it to be defensive. Fear is either the plaintiff or the defendant. Love sits on the jury of its own life. Luke 6:35, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, …

Just out living our suffering doesn’t ensure we grow stronger for it. How we move through it determines if we grow stronger or not. Loving through our suffering means still doing what is “truly” best for others without regard for ourself. Loving when we are suffering is extremely difficult. Suffering makes a five pound weight a hundred and five pound weight, but fighting to lift a heavier weight is what makes us stronger. When we keep fighting to live a loving life even in our suffering, then Go …

Loving others or someone else does not require we love ourself...thank God! I got over myself years ago, and it was the best decision I ever made. We are not the origin of love. To believe we are is to suggest we are our own god. We are not the Creator! We are the creation. Jesus is love! When we love Him and come to fully understand His love for us we are left with a desire to love others, and He teaches us how to love them. It’s the whole reason I do every one of these posts. His love for me d …

Grieving is important. Moving on too fast can be just as damaging as not moving on at all. There is a grieving process, and the time it takes to move on will depend on how much we lost. Moving on doesn’t mean what we lost has no value. It means giving value to what we lost by how we live moving forward, and allow love to continually rule our lives. Whether we are moving on from selfishness or love, God wants to use it all for our good and the good of those we love. He can if we let Him. Don’t ru …