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What matters most is what we believe. Love requires we seek and believe the truth. Fear wants us to believe what we feel. Whatever we believe will guide our lives. Our beliefs are the rudder on our ship. We don’t need to figure out why the truth doesn’t fit our beliefs and bend the truth to fit our beliefs. We need to figure out why our beliefs don’t fit the truth and change our beliefs to fit the truth. The truth is not hard to find but it takes courage to seek it. It’s found by asking “why” th …

Feelings are real and they are for a reason. They are also valid, but more than anything they are misleading. Sometimes our feelings lead us to the truth, but more often than not, if we follow them we will be led astray. Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? Proverbs 28:26 Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered. 1 John 3:20 For whenever our heart condemns us, God is greater than our hea …

Fighting to be loved is a trap. It’s not loving others....it’s using others to love us. If I fight for you to love me, then I won’t tell you when you’re selfish or try to stop you from being selfish, because that may hurt my chances of being loved by you. If I love you I will tell you...as kindly as possible.... when you may need to change, even if it means you may not love me. Loving to be loved is called enabling or co-dependency. Loving to be loved is not love. It’s selfishness. The answer is …

Fighting for love is the fight to be kind, patient, truthful (honest even when it hurts), protective of others, trust, hope, and persevere for the sake of others. If we love someone who is not loving us and should be, then we should first ask why and be willing to listen. It may be that we are making it very difficult for them to love us. Then after listening....if we believe the other person is being selfish, love requires we tell them for their own sake as kindly as we can. It’s not loving to …

The most forgiving people I have ever met are those who believe they have been forgiven of much. The truth is, we have all been forgiven of much. Forgiveness does not require feelings of forgiveness. It requires love despite our feelings. It takes loving over time to change feelings. If after being hurt we refuse to forgive, then the lack of love over time only leads to more problems. Moving forward in forgiveness is an all out fight to live a loving life. The hurt we have suffered will cost us …

“Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ, and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in.” CS Lewis. Philippians 2:3-11 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, bein …