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One Way to Know Someone Is Not Loving You, But Using You
This is one way to know that someone is using you -- not loving you.This isn’t the only way to know but it is a major red flag.If someone is unwilling to criticize you or challenge you; to rebuke you or tell you the truth in love, that you need to change – they are not loving you.If they are unwilling to risk their relationship with you -- not willing to risk you no longer loving them -- in order to share the truth with you and what is truly best for you: they are not loving you, they’re loving
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21st Jul 2020
Seek Truth - Don't Act Out Of Fear
In these chaotic times, it is critical to remember that love is not rude or angry, but fear is; and seeking truth must always supersede our actions.“Anger is something we all feel, and those angry feelings are often beyond our control. I have never figured out how to stop feeling anger. Acting on our angry feelings, though, is something we often can control.“We can feel anger but still choose to be kind. Fear acts on the anger that it feels. Anger does not rule our lives when we feel it. Anger o
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18th Jun 2020
The one thing that lies to you more than anything else
The whole idea that we should do what we feel is right or go where our emotions lead us is a lie told to destroy us. It’s a lie told so fear can use you for what it wants with no regard for what it will cost you. If I wanted to control and wreck the future of every child in the world, I would tell them to just follow their feelings at all cost. I would tell them to fight for “their” rights instead of fighting for what is right. I would tell them to find a way to justify their feelings. Please, p
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24th Sep 2019
The worst part about not being loved as a child
We must first understand our children are new to this life. They really don’t know how to sort out their feelings with what is right. We shouldn’t tolerate their selfishness but we also need to understand they really don’t know the truth yet. We need to take the time to explain to them how to put themselves in the other persons shoes. We must teach them how to love others as if they were them. If we take the time to help them understand that we want them to live a selfless life for their own sak
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24th Sep 2019
Who are the only two people who have the only thing you are missing?
The world’s message of making sure people give us what we earned, are owed, need, have coming, or deserve is a lie intended to lead us to destroy ourself. No one owes us anything, and nothing we are missing in our own lives belongs to anyone else. The only thing ever missing in our own lives is what we have to give, and what Jesus has for us. Matthew 16:24 Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. Matthew 16:25 For if
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6th Sep 2019
How do we accept Gods forgiveness
I used to fight to forgive myself, but then I thought about how I feel about the person that hurt me forgiving themselves, and nothing about that made sense. The truth is, we have no power to forgive ourselves. The only power we have is to repent and forgive others. The beauty and the miracle is that God forgives us. Then our responsibility becomes accepting His forgiveness so we can move forward living a loving life. So His forgiveness in our lives is not in vain, and so His sacrifice on the cr
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5th Sep 2019
How to respond to criticism
When I became totally convinced that the truth was best for me and those I loved the most....then criticism became my best friend. It still hurts my feelings, and maybe it always will. I must say though, not nearly as much as it once did. Not so much anymore, because the change it has brought to my own life has blessed me so much, I find myself desiring criticism. I desire it so I can be challenged, and so I can get other perspectives and be shown my own blind spots. In the past, the moment I re
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5th Sep 2019
What to do when you feel like your destiny is in someone else's hands?
Your destiny is not in the hands of anyone else! Other people do have the power to influence the path it takes to get where God wants you. The idea that no one else can hurt you or change the course it takes to get where God wants you is simply not the truth. Buying that lie leads us to fight people instead of fighting to live a loving life. It leads us to build fences that we think will protect us but only trap us. Boundaries don’t protect us, they destroy us. Fences we think keep others out, o
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5th Sep 2019
What to do if you love someone who doesn’t love you
Loving someone who won’t love us is always painful. Actually, anyone not loving us is painful. We can pretend we don’t care, but that is just a fearful response to the fact we do care. Whatever you do, don’t harden your heart. That’s the trap of hurt. Loving heals us from hurt. When we harden our own hearts, we prevent healing and live a life trapped by the hurt we are trying to avoid. If someone not loving you hurts then thank God. It means you’re whole and you’re what God made you to be. Have
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5th Sep 2019
What does it mean to settle for someone?
If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w
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4th Sep 2019