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Someone loving us is not permission to hurt them just because they will forgive us. It’s a responsibility to love them. If we love someone....the last thing we ever want to do is hurt them. That said, as much love as I feel for Tammie, and as hard as I fight to love her, I still manage to hurt her far too often. Healthy relationships and marriages are rarely without hurt. It’s the willingness to truly repent and truly forgive that keeps love growing stronger. If someone continues to hurt us with …

Someone may be a better fit for us, and they may be more loving than someone else, but if we ever buy the lie we or someone else is better or more valuable than someone else, we become a part of the problem. I am not suggesting we should remain in a relationship with a person stuck on selfish. Love never pretends selfishness is ok. I am just saying stuck on selfish -or extremely loving- none of us are more valuable or better than the other. This is a fundamental truth that we must understand. If …

Loving to be loved is not love it’s manipulation. If someone is loving us because we love them, then they may not be loving us at all. They may be loving themselves. It’s not always malicious either. Sometimes it’s all they know, and sometimes it’s all we know. That’s why it’s so important we love Jesus, because He will teach us how to really love. If the person who loves you hates their enemies, that’s a …