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There’s only one way to get your cup filled. And it’s the opposite of what the world and social media tell you all day long, every day.The only way to get your cup filled up is to pour out what you already have.You have something. I don’t care how little you have, you have something.You are not responsible for filling your cup. You are responsible for pouring out what you have. God does the filling.So, this whole idea that you cannot give from an empty vessel is a lie straight from the pit of he …

This is a good question, but it’s based on a fundamental misunderstanding of what humility is. Humility is not a pushover at all. It’s the furthest thing from it.Tolerance is a pushover. Tolerance is selfishness. Our world teaches tolerance, tolerance, tolerance -- because it’s selfish.If you love someone, you will only tolerate what is best for them. If it’s not best for them, you don’t want anything to do with it. So, you encourage them to change.Pride is a pushover; pride portrays all this s …

Listen, if someone is manipulating you, they are not going to be authentic. They are not going to be transparent.If someone is authentic and transparent, they are going to have a range of emotions. If they are upset, you are going to see they are upset. If they are happy, you are going to see they’re happy.. If they are sad, you are going to see they are sad. They are the same on the inside as they are on the outside.If someone is trying to manipulate you, they are trying to make you believe one …

After I did a video on denying yourself, I got a lot of direct messages from people asking me, “Should I deny myself my dream, my goal, my desire to prosper? Is it a sin to want those things?”I think there were a lot of good-hearted people asking questions like that.I say, no, it’s not wrong to want those things and pursue them. But, if our goals and our desire is selfish in nature, and we aren’t going to let God in to give that dream the meaning He intends for it to have, I don’t think we will …

This was way too important to me to throw up a black screen for a day.The truth is that each life matters to God, because he created each life -- but no one life matters more than another.We are all sinners. God loves the sinner, not the sin.The whole world can say to you your life doesn’t matter and treat you as if it doesn’t. That doesn’t make your life not matter.The whole world can say to you and treat you like your life matters, but that doesn’t make your life matter.What makes your life ma …

I am sure I am jumping into a blender on this, but no one is talking about the truth. No one is talking about the real problem.It’s easy for all of us to see clearly—any sensible person knows that his life was senselessly taken by a selfish man.Was it race? I don’t know if it was race or not.But if it was race, race is still not the problem.Race is a fruit of the problem.Until we deal with the root of the problem, nothing’s going to change. And the rioting, the rioting is a trap that is laid i …

No, they don’t.Bad decisions don’t destroy God’s plan for our lives, but bad decisions certainly do have consequences.All decisions have consequences. I believe we are going in the direction we’re going because of the decisions we are making.It is so important we make loving decisions -- decisions that consider the best interest of others.We say God’s in control, but he is in control when we give him control.God doesn’t follow us wherever we want to go, he wants us to follow him.So, when we are …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love Is Kind“I have rarely met anyone who isn’t kind to those who are kind to them.“Only those whose lives are totally ruled by fear might choose to be unkind to those who are kind to them. But if we want love ruling our lives, we must be kind no matter how others treat us.“Being kind when we don’t feel like it can mean a couple different things. Sometimes it just means what it sounds like: being kind a …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love Is More Than Feelings“In our lives, we experience feelings, and we take actions. Feelings come and go, most often beyond our control. However, decisions and actions are fully in our control. Our decisions and our actions can be based on our feelings, but they don’t have to be. In other words, I can spend my life just reacting to all my feelings, or I can choose to set my feelings aside long enough …

Excerpts from “The Right Fight: How to Live a Loving Life” by John Kennedy VaughanA Father’s Love Protects“Protecting is doing what is truly best for others. So often we think we are loving others by protecting them from truths that would help them become a better person because we don’t want to see them hurt. This is the reason people tell ‘white lies’ or withhold the constructive truth.“But because we know love is always truthful, we can also know that this is never really the loving thing to …