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What matters most to you
Luke 9:48, Then he said to them, "Whoever welcomes this little child in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me. For it is the one who is least among you all who is the greatest." I will never forget being escorted through The Pentagon by active duty Colonel David Dodd who had just returned from war. He escorted me into the offices of the Secretary of Defense and the office of Four Star General William Boykin (the head of a special task force in the war on terro
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3rd Sep 2019
How to be worthy
I think if we could be worthy of God’s love, then we would have never needed Jesus. Maybe the most foolish thing we can ever do is to suggest that what we have received by grace makes us more worthy than anyone else. Only Jesus who is truth and love is worthy to set us free, and our mission should be to seek Him at all cost. 2 Corinthians 3:5, “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God.”
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3rd Sep 2019
How it feels to be loved
Every time I record a video I ask for @tammieavaughan input because I know she will tell me the truth. Still every time she says “not sure about that one” I feel rejected. Lol. Lord help me and thank you Tammie for loving me!!! Unconditional acceptance and approval is not love it’s selfishness. It’s a total disregard for what is truly best for the other person. If someone loves you, they will challenge you when they believe you need to be challenged. They should do it kindly, but I would rather
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26th Aug 2019
How to help someone who hurts you
First I want to say, if someone is hurting you physically, every reasonable line has been crossed. Please don’t let it continue at all cost. Escape by any means necessary. Physical abuse is one extreme, and the other extreme is being easily offended. I have seen people justify someone physically beating them, and I have seen others pretend normal anger is insane abuse. The vast majority of the time, neither of these extremes are in play. If you aren’t sure, please seek advice from someone you tr
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26th Aug 2019
How to process offense
Offense is a trap! It’s a trap that wants to lead us to a fear led life. When we feel offended, it should lead us to first look within ourself and then seek the truth. If we are easily offended then we no longer live in control of our own life, but instead give control of our life and our peace to the fearful among us. Love is not easily offended....fear is. This does not mean that if people intentionally hurt us we should be ok with it. It certainly doesn’t mean if someone will physically harm
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24th Aug 2019
Even if you don’t
Loving someone so they will love us is not love it’s manipulation. Loving someone whether they love us or not is love. Love is not a feeling, it’s a decision to do what is truly best for others without regard for ourself. The feeling of love is the fruit of love not love itself. Daniel 3:14-25,”King Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and He will deliver us from Yo
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24th Aug 2019
Does God hate sinners?
“Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get. But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner. I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home just
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23rd Aug 2019
How to suffer
Just out living our suffering doesn’t ensure we grow stronger for it. How we move through it determines if we grow stronger or not. Loving through our suffering means still doing what is “truly” best for others without regard for ourself. Loving when we are suffering is extremely difficult. Suffering makes a five pound weight a hundred and five pound weight, but fighting to lift a heavier weight is what makes us stronger. When we keep fighting to live a loving life even in our suffering, then Go
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23rd Aug 2019
How to love someone when you don’t love yourself
Loving others or someone else does not require we love ourself...thank God! I got over myself years ago, and it was the best decision I ever made. We are not the origin of love. To believe we are is to suggest we are our own god. We are not the Creator! We are the creation. Jesus is love! When we love Him and come to fully understand His love for us we are left with a desire to love others, and He teaches us how to love them. It’s the whole reason I do every one of these posts. His love for me d
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23rd Aug 2019
Is love passive?
The first thing we need to consider before we speak into someone’s life is....what is the likely result of us speaking. Then we should consider how should we speak. The answer is always to speak in a way the other person is most likely to understand what we really mean. In other words, just saying what we think or speaking our mind is not always loving. Sometimes it’s selfish. We should never just speak our mind. We should speak the truth for others sake which means we must deliver the message i
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23rd Aug 2019