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Loving someone who won’t love us is always painful. Actually, anyone not loving us is painful. We can pretend we don’t care, but that is just a fearful response to the fact we do care. Whatever you do, don’t harden your heart. That’s the trap of hurt. Loving heals us from hurt. When we harden our own hearts, we prevent healing and live a life trapped by the hurt we are trying to avoid. If someone not loving you hurts then thank God. It means you’re whole and you’re what God made you to be. Have …

If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

Someone may be a better fit for us, and they may be more loving than someone else, but if we ever buy the lie we or someone else is better or more valuable than someone else, we become a part of the problem. I am not suggesting we should remain in a relationship with a person stuck on selfish. Love never pretends selfishness is ok. I am just saying stuck on selfish -or extremely loving- none of us are more valuable or better than the other. This is a fundamental truth that we must understand. If …

I think it is important to find ourself, because there are gifts we are born with that are vital to become who God created us to be. That said, I think these gifts are virtually impossible to lose. They are created into our very being. What is incredibly important is that we realize the difference between our created gifts and our sinful nature. Our strongest desires are not necessarily our gifts. They may be our sinful nature. Our gifts are the most valuable things we have to offer others. They …

If someone loves you, they will only do what is truly best for you with no regard for themselves and expecting nothing in return. Of course none of us are perfectly loving, but if they mess up they won’t defend their mess up, make excuses, or blame it on someone else. They will own it and repent. If they believe you’re missing the truth, they will tell you and do anything they can to help you change. They won’t support anything you want. They will only support what they believe is best for you. …

Hope in the truth is a strategy. It’s a strategy worth fighting for. That said, we can’t just hope in anything. God’s Word teaches us to hope in the truth. Our hope is in Jesus, and when we trust in Him and fight to live a loving life, we can trust our hope more than our feelings. Hebrews 6:17-20, “Because God wanted to make the unchanging nature of His purpose very clear to the heirs of what was promised, He confirmed it with an oath. God did this so that, by two unchangeable things in which it …

Missing God doesn’t derail our life. Because of Jesus, repentance can have us right back on track quickly. It may take us longer to get there from where we are, and it may be a harder road to travel, but God will use it all for our good if we love Him and are willing to change directions. The only thing that can derail us for the long haul is an unwillingness to repent and a decision to put ourself first at all cost. That decision will keep us on a path away from God until we repent. II Corinthi …

If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

I think rejection is rooted in fear which is rooted in “me.” I still feel it often, but every time I dig deeper, I find myself conflicted between the “me” in me wanting what it wants, while at the same time desiring what is right and what God wants. I know God's way is best for me, yet I still want what I want. I have learned if something is not good for everyone, it's not good for anyone. The most miraculous thing about love is that it's the only thing that is always best for everyone. …