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When I became totally convinced that the truth was best for me and those I loved the most....then criticism became my best friend. It still hurts my feelings, and maybe it always will. I must say though, not nearly as much as it once did. Not so much anymore, because the change it has brought to my own life has blessed me so much, I find myself desiring criticism. I desire it so I can be challenged, and so I can get other perspectives and be shown my own blind spots. In the past, the moment I re …

Your destiny is not in the hands of anyone else! Other people do have the power to influence the path it takes to get where God wants you. The idea that no one else can hurt you or change the course it takes to get where God wants you is simply not the truth. Buying that lie leads us to fight people instead of fighting to live a loving life. It leads us to build fences that we think will protect us but only trap us. Boundaries don’t protect us, they destroy us. Fences we think keep others out, o …

I get hurt and you get hurt. Some of us get hurt far worse than others. Being hurt though says nothing about us. How we respond to hurt says much about us. Please realize, that people hurting you says nothing about you. Jesus told us to turn the other cheek not so we would be a victim, but so we could become victorious. A popular and far too often true statement is, “hurting people hurt people.” Sadly, this is often true because we allow hurt to keep us from living a loving life. We fight back a …

I have come to the point in my life where if something won’t cost me anything, I’m afraid of it. Afraid, because I have learned love always cost me something, but never more than not loving cost me. I have also learned love normally cost us now and pays us later. Fear always wants me to take the free ride, so it can suck the life out of me later. God’s will for your life will cost you, and it will cost you now, but it’s the best possible thing that can ever happen to you. Fear wants us to try to …

Loving someone who won’t love us is always painful. Actually, anyone not loving us is painful. We can pretend we don’t care, but that is just a fearful response to the fact we do care. Whatever you do, don’t harden your heart. That’s the trap of hurt. Loving heals us from hurt. When we harden our own hearts, we prevent healing and live a life trapped by the hurt we are trying to avoid. If someone not loving you hurts then thank God. It means you’re whole and you’re what God made you to be. Have …

We don’t have a chance to practice remaining calm until we are anxious. These are moments where opportunities present themselves to practice remaining calm. We must be quick to cast down imaginations that exalt themselves against the knowledge of God.....and quick to embrace those thoughts obedient to Christ. ”The Right Fight” is not the fight with fear. It’s the fight for truth that drives out fear. Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and learn not on your own I understanding …

If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

If we really love someone, we tell them the truth as kindly as we can. Our goal is not to speak our mind or prove our point. It’s to help someone we love see the truth for their own sake. So we do all we can to communicate the truth in a way they are most likely to receive it. That’s the best we can do. After that we must trust God and pray they do as well. If someone is willing to tell you what they believe is the truth even if it offends you...they may just love you. Don’t be offended- be grat …

The truth is never hard to find, but it takes a lot of courage to be willing to look for it. It is always simple and easy to understand, so long as we are willing to set aside our own feelings. It’s found by digging deeper because if it’s true, the more we dig, the more truth we find. Lies, on the other hand, don’t want anyone digging into anything. So they respond with all kind of confusion and emotions, and pretend the truth is subject to them or their feelings. When we try to alter the truth …