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When we really understand how Jesus loves us we are left with a burning desire to love as we are loved. We no longer love to be loved we love because we are loved. Ephesians 2:8-9 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. 2 Corinthians 5:21 For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. …

ANALYTICSEDIT VIDEO If something you’re doing is wrecking your life, it’s rooted in a false belief. The truth can be hard, but it saves lives.... it doesn’t wreck them. It may not be easy to change what you believe, but if you’re willing to seek truth no matter how it feels, it will radically change every area of your life. We think what we think and we do what we do because we believe what we believe. I talk about this at length in “The Right Fight”. How to live a loving life. God’s Word is …

This one may really get me in hot water. Unconditional acceptance is what the doctors call codependency. It’s a fantasy word for loving to be loved. It’s not love at all though... it’s manipulation. When we love to be loved.....the only person we are loving is ourself. We are doing what we believe is best for us without regard for others. Truthfully, we are not loving at all. We are manipulating. This is the greatest trap of fear and it’s always baited with hurt. Don’t take the bait! We are all …

Some say some wounds never heal. I think the only wounds that never heal are the ones we refuse to stop nursing. All wounds need nursing at first, but at some point we must let them heal. We don’t heal wounds...Jesus does if we let Him. Every wound leaves a scar, but the scars purpose is to make that place stronger. Stronger, so we can help others through the same hurt because we have been there and found our way out. Love leads us out, heals the wounds, and makes us stronger. Jesus is love, and …

Both self hate and self love require a focus on “SELF.” The idea that self love is the answer to self hate is a lie. It’s a trap! A trap that leads to self destruction. The problem is....SELF....which is rooted in fear. The only solution to the trap of self is Jesus-who is love (selfless)! Fight for your life and you will lose it. Give up your life and you will find it. Matthew 10:39,”Those who try to gain their own life will lose it; but those who lose their life for my sake will gain it.” …

The world tells us to love ourself or hate ourself. Both are equally selfish. Both require a self focus. Love requires we die to ourself. Living a loving life is the best possible thing we can do for ourself, but we can’t do it for ourself or it’s no longer love. If this sounds crazy please read,”The Right Fight” How to Live a Loving Life. There was a time I would have thought I was crazy too. All I can say is please, please, please, keep digging for more truth. Nothing will set you free like th …

I know this may land me in hot water. Please consider the truth. I wonder how many moms feel empowered by having an abortion? I can tell you millions of mothers live with the regret of having one, and I wonder if any would suggest it empowered them. Only love empowers anyone, and His name is Jesus. Thank you Jesus for forgiveness and the forgiveness of my sins and everyone who repents and loves You. The most powerful women I have ever met are mothers, and the power of their love for their babies …

It is the greatest feeling ever to be loved, and the worst ever to not be loved. But loved or not loved, we still have a responsibility to love. Being loved is great, but it says nothing about us. Whether or not we love says much about us. It’s hard to keep living a loving life when we get hurt, but we must. The whole word can love us, but if we don’t love, it’s all for nothing. Or if no one loves us and we still love, then love rules our life and fruitfulness is our destiny. No one ever said lo …

It takes courage to repent, but it’s the best possible thing we can do for others if we sinned against them. It’s also the best thing to do for ourselves, because if we do not repent, it will destroy our lives. Be careful though about who you repent to. A great rule of thumb is to remember there is personal sin, private sin, and public sin. Personal sin is between ourself and God, and our repentance should be personal. We should repent to God, or to God and very trusted loved ones only. Private …

The only way one bad apple spoils the batch is if we are too afraid to deal with the bad apple. If we love the bad apple, then love will force us to challenge it to change. Making a rule to protect us from what someone did to hurt us results in us treating everyone like they will do the same. It’s a decision to sacrifice everyone else so we won’t get hurt. Fear always looks out for itself without regard for others, and in the process destroys itself. Love looks out for others without regard for …