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It’s why we do what we do that determines if it’s love or selfishness. Love does what is truly best for others without regard for itself, but love can’t control what others do. If we love someone and they refuse to love, then love may require we step back to ensure we don’t enable the destruction of the selfish person. Or we can protect ourself without regard for them, and make sure they know if they hurt us again what it will cost them....but that just ensures we become what we are fighting. Lo …

Fighting for love is the fight to be kind, patient, truthful (honest even when it hurts), protective of others, trust, hope, and persevere for the sake of others. If we love someone who is not loving us and should be, then we should first ask why and be willing to listen. It may be that we are making it very difficult for them to love us. Then after listening....if we believe the other person is being selfish, love requires we tell them for their own sake as kindly as we can. It’s not loving to …

If we are not careful we may think if someone takes advantage of our trust, that our trust is the problem. If we think our trust is the problem, then we will stop trusting and stop loving. This mistake will lead to destroying love in our lives. Love requires if someone is taking advantage of our trust, that we ask them “why” for their own sake. Then we have to make the toughest decision of all. We have to decide... have they truly repented. Will they truly change? If we don’t believe they will c …

If we really love someone, the last thing we want to do is walk away. We want them to change for their own sake and we want to help them change. In the end though, we can’t make anyone change. If after exhausting all resources they refuse to change, or if they are doing physical or significant mental damage to us, then love requires we tell them we love them too much to enable them to live a selfish life. Enabling someone’s own destruction is not love. It’s selfishness. When to move on though …

I really don’t think love even exist until a sacrifice is required. Loving people who love us is an even exchange. Loving when we are hurt...now that’s real love. This does not mean it’s okay to hurt me. It just means I forgive you for hurting me, and I want you to stop hurting people for your own sake. It’s a fight for you not for me. I just get protected in the process. Really, love protects us better than we could ever protect ourselves anyway. We just can’t do it for ourself, or it’s no long …

Trusting God is looking at your circumstances, looking at your fears, looking at God’s Word and deciding to trust what God says more than anything else. In the end, after looking at all options, we all act on something and we all trust something. It’s really crazy to think our feelings are more dependable than God’s Word, yet it’s still a tough fight to trust God’s Word when our feelings are so real. Feelings being real does not make them valid or true. “The Right Fight” is the fight to trust Go …

Wives should not depend on their husbands for their peace and joy. Only Jesus can provide that, but a loving husband can sure make it a heck of a lot easier for a wife to live in joy and peace. Loving our wives is a daily decision to do what is truly best for them without regard for ourself. It doesn’t mean ignoring truth, but it does mean putting them before ourself. Fear always looks out for itself....love always looks out for her. Ephesians 5:25,”Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also …

There are moments in my life when I don’t understand why things happen. It’s during these times I think about this Scripture from 1 Corinthians 13:12. It explains how we see things imperfectly, like reflections in a mirror. But one day, when we get to Heaven, we will see with perfect clarity. God sees the complete picture of our lives. All that we know now is partial and incomplete, but in Heaven we will know everything completely, just as God now knows us completely. So- even though there …

We must first understand our children are new to this life. They really don’t know how to sort out their feelings with what is right. We shouldn’t tolerate their selfishness but we also need to understand they really don’t know the truth yet. We need to take the time to explain to them how to put themselves in the other persons shoes. We must teach them how to love others as if they were them. If we take the time to help them understand that we want them to live a selfless life for their own sak …

I have and so often see people saying they are doing things in the name of God when in reality, it’s the opposite of what God would have me or them do. It’s also far too common to give Satan credit for what the law of God is enforcing. When we pay a price for sin, it’s a blessing not a curse. When we get what we want for selfishness, it’s a curse not a blessing. God won’t bless selfishness because He loves us. If we are unsure if we are following the Holy Spirit or our own feelings, we should …