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There are moments in my life when I don’t understand why things happen. It’s during these times I think about this Scripture from 1 Corinthians 13:12. It explains how we see things imperfectly, like reflections in a mirror. But one day, when we get to Heaven, we will see with perfect clarity. God sees the complete picture of our lives. All that we know now is partial and incomplete, but in Heaven we will know everything completely, just as God now knows us completely. So- even though there …

We must first understand our children are new to this life. They really don’t know how to sort out their feelings with what is right. We shouldn’t tolerate their selfishness but we also need to understand they really don’t know the truth yet. We need to take the time to explain to them how to put themselves in the other persons shoes. We must teach them how to love others as if they were them. If we take the time to help them understand that we want them to live a selfless life for their own sak …

I have and so often see people saying they are doing things in the name of God when in reality, it’s the opposite of what God would have me or them do. It’s also far too common to give Satan credit for what the law of God is enforcing. When we pay a price for sin, it’s a blessing not a curse. When we get what we want for selfishness, it’s a curse not a blessing. God won’t bless selfishness because He loves us. If we are unsure if we are following the Holy Spirit or our own feelings, we should …

Gratefulness is a choice. If we are not grateful for little, we won’t be grateful for much either. My wife @tammieavaughan is one of the most grateful people I have ever met. When we were dating, nothing got her more excited then going to Circle K (she called it K’s) for a pack of Little Debbie blueberry muffins and a cherry Slurpee! To this day she gets soooo excited over school supplies like pens and paper for home school, and sometimes I drive 50 miles one way to get her a Big Red Icee at …

Grieving is important. Moving on too fast can be just as damaging as not moving on at all. There is a grieving process, and the time it takes to move on will depend on how much we lost. Moving on doesn’t mean what we lost has no value. It means giving value to what we lost by how we live moving forward, and allow love to continually rule our lives. Whether we are moving on from selfishness or love, God wants to use it all for our good and the good of those we love. He can if we let Him. Don’t …

Be patient! Slowing down a loving relationship only helps it. Rushing a loving relationship can ruin it. If we rush a broken relationship, all we get is hurt and regret. Fear is always anxious and in a hurry to move a relationship along, because it’s afraid it will lose what it wants. Love is patient because it’s more concerned with you being sure you want to stay then it is with losing what it has. Love takes courage! If it’s not good for both people in a relationship, it’s not good for eith …

First you should know the truth, and you must believe the truth no matter how you feel. The truth is, if someone doesn’t love you, it says nothing about you. Whether or not you love does say something about you. The whole world can love us, but if we refuse to love, fruitlessness is our destiny. Or- no one can love us, but if we love, then love rules our life and fruitfulness is our destiny. It’s so critically important we believe the truth, because what we believe is the foundation of who we …

The most forgiving people I have ever met are those who believe they have been forgiven of much. The truth is, we have all been forgiven of much. Forgiveness does not require feelings of forgiveness. It requires love despite our feelings. It takes loving over time to change feelings. If after being hurt we refuse to forgive, then the lack of love over time only leads to more problems. Moving forward in forgiveness is an all out fight to live a loving life. The hurt we have suffered will cost us …

“Look for yourself, and you will find in the long run only hatred, loneliness, despair, rage, ruin, and decay. But look for Christ, and you will find Him, and with Him everything else thrown in.” CS Lewis. Philippians 2:3-11 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, bein …