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Just for clarity -God is love! There is no love without Him. Whether we are the offender or the offended, this is why we all must first run to Jesus. Then as we connect to Him, we become grafted into the vine (Jesus). Then love flows through us, and as love flows through us we forgive, we repent, we love, and loving restores what was taken away. I try to illustrate this with trees and roots and fruit visually in “The Right Fight.” We have all been hurt and we have all hurt someone. Jesus is the …

It takes courage to listen and ask simple questions. Fear always pretends to be strong, so it will risk passing over the fundamentals never realizing it’s building a house on sand. True strength is okay with not knowing everything, and asks questions so it can dig deeper and build a firm foundation. Matthew 7:24-27 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and be …

Loving to be loved is not love it’s manipulation. If someone is loving us because we love them, then they may not be loving us at all. They may be loving themselves. It’s not always malicious either. Sometimes it’s all they know, and sometimes it’s all we know. That’s why it’s so important we love Jesus, because He will teach us how to really love. If the person who loves you hates their enemies, that’s a …

Justice as I understand it, is a payment equal to the damage done in an effort to restore the damaged. If someone hurts us, they can’t fix us and we can’t fix ourselves. Justice does not restore us. Loving over time is the only thing that can restore us. Demanding justice keeps us from loving over time, and only ensures we are not restored. Repentance is truly best for others...real repentance....real change. Matthew 18:23-35 “Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a king who decide …

The second sign someone may love you is that they will be kind. Love is kind, but kind is not always nice. Kindness never wants to hurt you, but more than kindness doesn’t want to hurt you, it wants what is best for you. If someone loves you, and it comes down to them telling you what is best for you or telling you what you want to hear, they will tell you what is best for you. Even if it may cost them their relationship with you. If someone is really kind they won’t just be kind to you. They wi …

If we are not careful we may think if someone takes advantage of our trust, that our trust is the problem. If we think our trust is the problem, then we will stop trusting and stop loving. This mistake will lead to destroying love in our lives. Love requires if someone is taking advantage of our trust, that we ask them “why” for their own sake. Then we have to make the toughest decision of all. We have to decide... have they truly repented. Will they truly change? If we don’t believe they will c …