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I get hurt and you get hurt. Some of us get hurt far worse than others. Being hurt though says nothing about us. How we respond to hurt says much about us. Please realize, that people hurting you says nothing about you. Jesus told us to turn the other cheek not so we would be a victim, but so we could become victorious. A popular and far too often true statement is, “hurting people hurt people.” Sadly, this is often true because we allow hurt to keep us from living a loving life. We fight back a …

Loving someone who won’t love us is always painful. Actually, anyone not loving us is painful. We can pretend we don’t care, but that is just a fearful response to the fact we do care. Whatever you do, don’t harden your heart. That’s the trap of hurt. Loving heals us from hurt. When we harden our own hearts, we prevent healing and live a life trapped by the hurt we are trying to avoid. If someone not loving you hurts then thank God. It means you’re whole and you’re what God made you to be. Have …

We don’t have a chance to practice remaining calm until we are anxious. These are moments where opportunities present themselves to practice remaining calm. We must be quick to cast down imaginations that exalt themselves against the knowledge of God.....and quick to embrace those thoughts obedient to Christ. ”The Right Fight” is not the fight with fear. It’s the fight for truth that drives out fear. Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and learn not on your own I understanding …

If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

The truth is never hard to find, but it takes a lot of courage to be willing to look for it. It is always simple and easy to understand, so long as we are willing to set aside our own feelings. It’s found by digging deeper because if it’s true, the more we dig, the more truth we find. Lies, on the other hand, don’t want anyone digging into anything. So they respond with all kind of confusion and emotions, and pretend the truth is subject to them or their feelings. When we try to alter the truth …

Someone may be a better fit for us, and they may be more loving than someone else, but if we ever buy the lie we or someone else is better or more valuable than someone else, we become a part of the problem. I am not suggesting we should remain in a relationship with a person stuck on selfish. Love never pretends selfishness is ok. I am just saying stuck on selfish -or extremely loving- none of us are more valuable or better than the other. This is a fundamental truth that we must understand. If …

If someone loves you, they will only do what is truly best for you with no regard for themselves and expecting nothing in return. Of course none of us are perfectly loving, but if they mess up they won’t defend their mess up, make excuses, or blame it on someone else. They will own it and repent. If they believe you’re missing the truth, they will tell you and do anything they can to help you change. They won’t support anything you want. They will only support what they believe is best for you. …

If we settle for someone it’s not their fault it’s our fault. This does not mean we are responsible for their selfishness, just that we are responsible for our involvement in their selfishness. This is not bad news, it’s good news because it means we can change our own destiny while we help and love the people around us. We all fail, we all struggle and we are all selfish at times, but if we want love to rule our lives, we must never defend our own mistakes. We must desire above all that those w …

First I want to say, if someone is hurting you physically, every reasonable line has been crossed. Please don’t let it continue at all cost. Escape by any means necessary. Physical abuse is one extreme, and the other extreme is being easily offended. I have seen people justify someone physically beating them, and I have seen others pretend normal anger is insane abuse. The vast majority of the time, neither of these extremes are in play. If you aren’t sure, please seek advice from someone you tr …

If we believe we are better than other people we may be in the most danger. Fear’s trap is to lead us to believe we are less valuable than others so we will then strive to be more valuable than others. The truth sets us free, and that truth is realizing we are no more or less valuable than anyone else, that our decisions do matter, and that no one can earn the love of God. Ephesians 2:8-10,”For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of G …